What should we do if a naughty child squanders more than 200,000 yuan and refuses to change his ways despite repeated warnings?

Recently, a news report said that a 13-year-old boy stole more than 200,000 yuan from his family and spent it all in one month. Later, his father found out and took him to the police station to try to get the money back through legal means. What happened? Let's take a closer look!

The naughty child squandered more than 200,000 yuan

Recently, a neighbor told Mr. Wu that his son Xiao Wu had been spending a lot of money recently. Mr. Wu then remembered the money he had kept at home. When he opened the bag where he hid the money, he was shocked to see that there was not a penny left in the bag. Mr. Wu asked Xiao Wu about the origin of the money, but Xiao Wu said that he had spent all the money. In desperation, Mr. Wu took Xiao Wu to the police station, hoping that the police could help them.

When questioned by the police, Xiao Wu told them where the money went. Xiao Wu started stealing money from home after the Spring Festival in 2016. Each time he would take out about 20,000 yuan, and then go to nearby hot spring scenic spots with his friends and social personnel to soak in hot springs, eat, drink and have fun.

Xiao Wu said he likes driving, and whenever he has money, he would go to a scenic spot in Chongqing with his friends to drive an "amphibious tank". Xiao Wu said that driving an "amphibious tank" costs 1,000 yuan per hour, and he would spend all the money in two to three days, and then get more money from home, which lasted for more than a month.

In order to avoid going to school and go out to play, every time Xiao Wu got money to go out to play, he would steal his father's mobile phone to send a message to the class teacher, saying that Xiao Wu was sick and needed to rest at home for a few days. Then he would call a few motorcycle taxi drivers to go out with them, pay the motorcycle taxi drivers 200 yuan a day for the fare, and provide food and accommodation.

After learning the truth, the police found several motorcycle taxi drivers through the contact information left by Xiao Wu and criticized and educated them for their behavior. Several motorcycle taxi drivers said they realized their mistakes and gave a total of more than 8,000 yuan to Wu as compensation.

The police told Mr. Wu that after verifying the authenticity of Xiao Wu’s other consumption, he was advised to seek compensation from other parties and units through legal channels, and whether compensation would be made would be subject to the court’s decision. The police reminded that parents should give their children appropriate pocket money and set an example by establishing a correct consumption concept.

Conclusion:

Nowadays, naughty kids really don’t know how high the sky is and how deep the earth is. When I was this young, I was very satisfied with 10 yuan a week, and I didn’t dare to steal money from home! I can only say that parents should take good care of their children!

What should I do if my child steals money and refuses to change?

Understand why money is stolen

1. Want to have similar toys or games with classmates so that you can gain everyone's recognition;

2. If you want to use money to exercise your rights, you can do what you want to do;

3. They want to do something to attract their parents’ attention. Generally, their parents focus too much on their careers and thus neglect their children.

4. Want to gain more favor and respect from classmates and friends.

Of course, these may just be some common reasons. Each individual is independent and has his or her own personality. First of all, we must find the reasons behind the child's behavior in order to help the child fundamentally.

Conclusion:

Regarding children stealing money, parents can first give their children some pocket money, but how much pocket money is appropriate? This may require the child and the parents to decide together. You can listen to the child's ideas and requests, but you must also set certain boundaries. When the child has the right to express his or her own requirements, he or she will also have a certain sense of responsibility. Secondly, when parents know that the reason why the child steals money is to gain the respect of his or her classmates, they should know how to have a deep discussion with the child on how to establish true friendship with classmates and friends, and how to truly win the respect of others. However, among the many parents we have come into contact with, some parents themselves do not know what friendship is, what is the real sense of respect. In fact, some of the children's problems are also a microcosm of the parents' and family problems. When parents do not know how to deal with these problems, then parents need to first conduct self-learning and improvement in this area.

How to educate children who steal money

1. When educating children, we should be calm and serious but not harsh, and certainly not hit or scold them. Let the children feel that this matter should be taken seriously, but do not let them feel too much oppression, so that they can accept our suggestions.

2. For this question, the child made three mistakes: stealing money, lying, and most importantly, the "do whatever it takes" way of thinking. In order to ensure the effect of education, we should highlight the key points. Tell the child that what makes you angry the most is not lying, not taking money, but the idea of ​​"do whatever it takes to achieve the goal". This kind of willful, selfish, and reckless idea is something you cannot tolerate. Tell him that he should use reasonable methods to satisfy his wishes. If reasonable methods do not work, then the right choice should be to give up his wishes, rather than satisfying his wishes by any means. Give the child a realistic example.

What needs to be emphasized is that the cultivation of children's sense of responsibility and the courage to bear the consequences should be carried out step by step after the idea of ​​"doing whatever it takes" is completely eliminated.

3. It is recommended that in order to show your sincerity to your child, you can increase his pocket money appropriately every month.

4. If there are things that your child really needs, you should try to satisfy them appropriately. If you firmly believe that your child should not be satisfied, you must explain to your child why and try to gain their understanding. It should not be a simple and tough prohibition.

5. When your child takes the initiative to admit his mistakes instead of covering them up, do not criticize the child. Instead, tell him that although he made a mistake, he took the initiative to admit it, which made mom (dad) very happy. Mom appreciates his courage and is proud of him.