Teaching by example is the best educational concept

Children need their parents' care from a young age, and they have a strong ability to imitate. Parents should not play with their mobile phones in front of their children, as the impact is very huge. So how can parents teach by example? The following editor will give you a detailed introduction.

Don't use your phone in front of your children

As parents, our generation tries very hard to buy things for our children, wanting to give them the best things in the world, even if it is just a bar of soap or a bottle of shower gel. Moreover, we study very hard, learning parenting and education, and spend tens of thousands of dollars a year to send our children to early childhood education centers and parent-child swimming pools. We buy boxes of toys, each one more luxurious and bigger than the last, but most children lose interest after playing with them for a few days. At this time, I find that they like to play with my phone.

Why? Because the phone glows? Because the phone looks fun? Which sound, light and electricity toy isn't more fun than the phone?

The answer is very simple, because when I am with him, I always sit next to him and play with my mobile phone; when feeding him, I hold the bottle in one hand and play with my mobile phone with the other hand; when coaxing him to sleep, he lies on my shoulder, and I hold him with one hand and play with my mobile phone with the other hand.

He is eight months old now. He has been watching me playing with a brick-like thing and naturally became interested in it. He likes everyone's cell phone, including those of strangers in the elevator, and he wants to reach out and take it when he sees it.

If I had started reading to him since he was born, would he like to flip through picture books now? I have prepared a whole bookcase full of picture books and various expensive children's books given by friends, but he has never opened any of them. I bought a cloth book from the United States for more than 100 yuan, thinking that he would like it, but he just flipped through it a few times and threw it into the corner. Nothing can compare to his excitement every time he sees my phone, and he can swipe the screen with his fingers without being taught.

I suddenly realized that children's ability to imitate is beyond my imagination. I always thought he was too young and it was too early to teach him anything, but he showed me the development and changes of a person from birth. Everything happened so fast.

How can parents teach by example?

Parents are their children's first teachers. As their children's earliest enlightenment and lifelong educators, parents have the most profound influence on their children's education. If parents want to successfully educate their children, they must set an example and be a role model for their children.

People often say: Look, this child looks exactly like his parents. It can be seen that parents’ words and deeds are role models for their children.

If parents behave elegantly and talk elegantly, their children will behave the same way; if parents behave vulgarly and talk vulgarly, it will inevitably have a bad influence on their children.

If parents can consciously abide by social ethics, maintain public health, and put fruit peels into the trash can, their children will also learn from their parents and put fruit peels into the trash can, thus developing the habit of maintaining social public health.

Some adults are careless and spit, litter, and swear everywhere, and their children also behave in the same way. In many cases, the behavior of parents becomes a reference for their children.

Parents should make their children follow their words and deeds, and never say one thing and do another. Saying one thing and doing another is worse than letting children do whatever they want.

The "family rules" set by parents, such as not watching TV or playing games at home... parents should take the lead in complying with them first. Otherwise, not only will they fail to make their children obey their orders, but their image in their children's hearts will be greatly reduced, causing the educational influence of parents on their children to weaken or even go in the opposite direction.

Parents should have the qualities and good habits that they want to form in their children. For example, the first thing to do when you get home is to change your shoes and wash your hands. Parents should do this first. If parents do this, children will do it naturally. Parents' role models, as a concrete image, have a strong suggestive and infectious power.

In the process of educating children, the best way for parents is to start with themselves. They must be careful in what they say and do, pay attention to teaching by words and deeds, and set an example themselves. Whatever they ask their children to do, they must do it first.

Once you promise something to your child, you must fulfill it. If it is difficult to fulfill, don't promise it easily. Educating your child in this way not only saves a lot of words, but also cultivates the virtue of "honesty" in your child.