Children often say these 3 sentences when they lack a sense of security

The first sentence: Mom, don't leave. The child is very dependent on the mother, which means that the child is very nervous psychologically. The second sentence: It's too dark, I'm scared. The child's fear of the dark is also a manifestation of lack of security. The third sentence: Mom and Dad, please stop arguing. Parents' quarrels are very traumatic to children.

First sentence: Mom, don’t go.

When children say, "Mom, please don't leave," it means that they lack a sense of security and are afraid. Mothers should not ignore it. If the problem is not solved, it may be detrimental to their future growth. It is recommended that mothers ask the reason why they are not allowed to leave, so as to effectively help solve the problem.

Second sentence: It’s too dark, I’m scared

Children cannot always sleep with their parents. When they reach a certain age, parents will separate their beds, which is also important for cultivating their independence. However, when they say "It's too dark, I'm scared", parents should pay attention, because it shows that they lack a sense of security. It is recommended that parents can accompany them for a while before going to bed, tell some sleep stories, etc., to help soothe their uneasy emotions. After a period of time, they may start to get used to sleeping alone. However, it should be noted that although children are afraid of the dark, it is not recommended to turn on the lights when sleeping, because this will affect the quality of sleep and is not conducive to physical development.

The third sentence: Mom and Dad, stop arguing.

It is inevitable that couples will have frictions because of little things in daily life, but if parents always quarrel in front of their children, it will make them feel insecure, make them think that their parents don't want them, and cause great harm to their young hearts.

Babies born by caesarean section are born with the help of external forces. They have not experienced the squeezing and close contact with their mother's vagina. They have never felt the natural process and stimulation of life during the birth process, so they lack a certain sense of security. When they feel that their parents are not around, or when there are other sound stimulations, babies may regard this situation as a threat to themselves, so they will cry for no reason, thus attracting the attention of adults. This is their way of telling their parents: "I'm scared, come and accompany me."

Symptoms: It is very normal for children to be fearful, but fears that exceed the normal range require attention, such as fear of the dark, thinking they need an injection when they see a doctor, or having "school phobia".

Main reason: People's fear is almost proportional to the development of physical skills and personal growth experience. As the things they are exposed to and the activities they experience increase, the fear they experience will also increase accordingly. Generally speaking, the fear of illness, death, being alone, darkness and imaginary monsters reaches its peak at the age of 4, and begins to decline after the age of 6. Whether the fear can be overcome in time is closely related to the sense of security that the child gets from his parents.

Intervention skills: Understand the child’s fear and comfort him/her + explain the truth

Children have very rich imaginations and often confuse imagination with reality. Adults should understand and comfort children from their perspectives, and not ignore or scare them. For children who cannot express themselves yet, parents can hug, pat and comfort them more to reduce their fear; for children who can express themselves, parents should encourage them to speak out, and explain the truth to them appropriately while comforting them, such as why it was dark.

1. Be compassionate

Simply put, it means being willing to help and care about others. Such practices are usually called "altruism" or "prosocial" behavior.

2. Good interpersonal relationships

Have harmonious interpersonal relationships and be able to get along well with other classmates. Adapt to acting under certain constraints and rules and actively participate in group activities.

3. Peace of mind

Have a calm and optimistic attitude, stay cool when encountering things, don’t be depressed or impatient, and be able to analyze and solve problems rationally.

4. Strong desire for knowledge

Be interested in things around you, actively seek answers, dare to try new things, and love to use your brain.

5. Strong willpower

Have strong willpower, not afraid of setbacks, have a certain ability to resist interference, can concentrate on doing something, and will not be distracted by external interference frequently.

6. Lively personality

He has an easygoing personality, is honest and direct when interacting with others, is willing to listen to different opinions, and can adjust himself even when encountering difficulties or setbacks.