Where is the best place to hit a child if he or she is disobedient? Is it really okay to hit him or her?

When children are disobedient, the first thing that mothers think of is to beat them. In fact, beating children in this way of education has great hidden dangers. So what should we do if children are disobedient? What are the ways for parents to beat their children? Is it really not okay to beat children when they make mistakes? The following editor will introduce you in detail.

What to do if your child doesn't listen

Treat it calmly. When your child loses his temper, let him stay in a room alone for a while. Don't rush to persuade him. He will calm down soon and will accept the reason when you talk to him.

Appropriate experience: Sometimes a child’s way of solving a problem is incorrect. At this time, adults may let him try it without any danger. When he hits a wall, he will be happy to accept the reason if you explain it to him.

Communicate. When your child does something wrong, don’t just blame him. Ask him patiently why he did that and help him analyze the consequences of doing so, so that he can realize the seriousness of the situation and learn how to solve such problems in the future and regulate his emotions.

Timely encouragement is a good medicine for any naughty child. When you find that he has made some progress, you should encourage and praise him, give him confidence, and he will consciously restrain his behavior, constantly strengthen himself, and gradually change bad habits.

Children cannot be hit casually

The first thing that needs to be emphasized is that you should never have the mentality of “What’s your business with our children?”

According to Article 10 of the Law on the Protection of Minors, parents or other guardians should create a good and harmonious family environment and perform their guardianship and support obligations for minors in accordance with the law.

Domestic violence against minors is prohibited, as is the abuse and abandonment of minors. Infanticide and other acts of infant cruelty are prohibited, and discrimination against female minors or minors with disabilities is prohibited.

Using violence against minors - regardless of whether they are your relatives or not - is illegal not only in developed countries such as the United States, but also in China.

How parents spank their children

Spanking

This is probably the most common way. The fat on the buttocks is relatively thick, which has a certain cushioning and protective effect. In addition, there are relatively few nerves distributed on the buttocks, which are relatively insensitive to pain. Parents may think that spanking is the safest. However, less pain does not mean less harm.

Damage to the muscles and soft tissues in the buttocks may also release necrotic tissue into the blood, causing acute renal damage. Moreover, insensitivity to pain may lead to misjudgment of the severity of the injury, increasing this risk.

We do not approve of corporal punishment of children. In addition to physical injuries, mental injuries are more difficult to heal. Children who are often beaten are more likely to suffer from damaged self-esteem, anxiety, fear, and aggressive or violent tendencies.

Head

This is the most reckless and dangerous behavior. Children are short, and some parents, in a fit of rage, will hit them on the head. On the surface, you may not see any injuries. However, the characteristics of children's development determine that the head accounts for a much larger proportion of the body than adults.

Moreover, the supporting strength of the cervical spine and neck muscles has not yet fully developed. The brain is most vulnerable to impact and concussion damage. Just like putting tofu in a lunch box and shaking it vigorously, at the mildest, a few brain cells will be damaged, causing dizziness and headaches, affecting brain development and even intellectual development; at the worst, intracranial hemorrhage will directly threaten life.

Face slap

This type of parents is also too reckless. In addition to the same risks as hitting the head, if the ear is hit, no matter how light or heavy, the eardrum perforation is a very easy type of injury.

The hearing loss caused by this is also much more harmful to children who are in the learning and neurological development stage than to adults. Slapping the cheek is more likely to cause edema and hematoma due to the loose connective tissue of the face. If the eye, a vital part, is accidentally injured, the consequences will of course be more serious.

Chest, back

Because of the protection of the ribs, the internal organs are generally not easily injured. But don't think that this is safe. If the spine is injured, it may cause permanent paralysis.

If there is a large area of ​​subcutaneous bleeding, muscle damage, rupture, or dissolution and destruction, a large amount of myoglobin and muscle destruction products will be produced, which will precipitate and block the renal tubules. Coupled with the toxic effect of myoglobin itself, it will lead to acute tubular necrosis and acute renal failure.

Arms and legs

Children's joints are not fully developed and their ligaments are relatively loose. If they are pulled violently or hit by external forces, they are most likely to suffer from joint dislocation and strain, which will leave sequelae in the future.

Is it really not okay to hit children when they make mistakes?

In the past, teachers in private schools used rulers to hit the palms of students, which actually made sense. The palms of the hands are rich in nerve endings and are very sensitive to pain. Even without much force, it is still quite painful, which can play a good role in "punishment".

When hitting the hands, the same amount of pain will cause relatively little damage, and safety issues are less likely to occur.

However, it is not recommended to use it frequently. "Punishment" can only exist as a ritual. Two or three hits will be enough to make the child realize the seriousness of the mistake.

If you don't distinguish between the important and the unimportant, and use them frequently and it becomes a daily routine, the child will not care about it and the educational purpose will be lost.