Why can't mothers spank their babies?

Babies are still very young and not very sensible. They occasionally make mistakes. It is best for mothers not to spank their babies. So why can't mothers spank their babies? What should I do if my baby is disobedient? The following editor will give you a detailed introduction.

Why shouldn't you spank your baby?

1. Spanking hurts the brain

A gentle spanking will not harm health. However, if you use too much force, the child will feel pain, and the brain will be stimulated. The brain tissue is located in the cranial cavity, and the skull is connected to the human spine through the atlanto-occipital joint. If parents spank their children too hard and too violently, the child's buttocks will be suddenly hit, which will be transmitted to the atlanto-occipital joint through the spine, possibly causing overall deformation of the skull, causing damage to the brain stem, and the consequences will be disastrous!

2. Spanking can damage your kidneys

Hitting a child's buttocks hard can easily damage the child's kidneys. Since the kidneys are important organs for the body's detoxification, if too much force is applied, blood stasis will easily form under the skin, which may harm the kidney's excretion function. In some serious cases, acute renal failure may occur, eventually leading to shock.

3. Spanking hurts your intelligence

Spanking hurts the brain, and it can also cause children to have slow intellectual development and low intelligence. According to the famous American World Journal, experts conducted a four-year follow-up study on 1,510 children aged 2 to 9. Among the 806 children aged 2 to 4, the average IQ of children who were not physically punished was 5 points higher than those who were often spanked, while the difference in the other group of 704 children aged 5 to 9 was 28 points.

4. Spanking hurts the heart

Spanking not only brings visible physical pain, but also leaves a psychological shadow on the child. When parents or other adults spank their children, they never consider the child's dignity. This will make the child less confident and full of frustration, which is not conducive to the formation of a good character. Parents' temporary angry scolding and rude behavior can seriously create a permanent gap between themselves and their children.

What to do if your baby doesn't listen

1. Give understanding and respect

When your baby starts to disobey, it is the first step for him to build his self-esteem. When your baby first wants to do something by himself, you may as well meet some of his reasonable requests and give him guidance when he needs help. This will make your baby feel that you respect him. The baby whose self-esteem is maintained will feel happy and accomplished, and will naturally become an obedient child.

2. Satisfy your baby’s curiosity

Give your baby enough space to explore independently while ensuring that he is away from dangerous objects. Actively provide some interesting toys and objects to effectively attract your baby's attention, so that he can focus on activities that meet his exploration needs. Try to provide him with more structural toys and let him assemble and disassemble them; guide him to innovate new ways to play with old toys or use waste materials as toys, such as crumpling old newspapers into balls and kicking them as footballs. This will satisfy his curiosity and his desire to operate by himself, and he will definitely be very happy.

3. Be willing to communicate with your baby

The way you communicate with your baby directly affects his behavior. It is recommended to use more positive and active words. For example, don't tell your baby "Don't crush the flowers", but say "This flower is so tender, baby, touch it gently with your fingers." Don't use the word "no", because the word "no" will attract his curiosity and increase his desire to try.

What to do if your child is naughty

1. Clean up

If your child is naughty, you can ask him to help clean up and do housework. This will not only punish the child, but also cultivate the child's hands-on ability. Generally speaking, children don't like to clean up and do housework, so if you ask children to do housework, they will often be more impressed and will be obedient in order to do less housework in the future.

2. Peeling melon seeds

When some parents encounter naughty children, there is a better way, that is to let the children peel melon seeds. Some parents may think that this method is not a punishment at all, but they don’t know that when you let children peel melon seeds, you are peeling the melon seed skin directly, and you can’t let the children eat the melon seeds. The fragrance of melon seeds may be very attractive to children. This way can not only cultivate children’s patience, but also give them a severe punishment.

3. No snacks

Some parents have a better method, that is, if the child is naughty or disobedient, they will not give the child snacks, and even put away all the current snacks. You know, snacks are indispensable for children, even more important than three meals a day, so if you restrict children from eating snacks, children will often feel very depressed, and in order to be able to eat snacks, they will often become more obedient and no longer naughty.

How to educate naughty babies

1. Give up the concept of "gender exclusiveness". When people think of naughty children, their first impression is that some boy is being naughty again. In fact, naughty children exist regardless of whether they are boys or girls, but most boys are more active and girls are more quiet. Of course, there are also quiet and well-behaved boys.

Parents should treat naughty children equally, whether boys or girls, and through proper encouragement and persistence, help children learn to abide by the rules and be considerate.

2. It’s in their nature. Many parents explain their children’s unruly and antisocial behavior as “normal behavior for children”, which results in their children’s behavior becoming more disorderly, and parents begin to doubt whether they have the ability to improve their children’s behavior.

When parents find that their children are behaving excessively, they should provide timely and targeted guidance, or consult educational experts, rather than blaming the child's nature.

3. Awaken the child's empathy and think from the child's perspective. Young children do not have the awareness of disturbing others, but parents can set up situational connections. Suppose when he is having fun by himself or with friends, if someone comes to disturb and interrupt, will he be happy?

At this time, parents should guide their children patiently and let them think from their perspective. Other children are just like him and will get angry when they are disturbed. Gradually, children will become more sensitive to the feelings of others.

4. Communicate patiently. Whether the child is aware of it or not, if what he says is hurtful or impolite, parents must tell him that such words are impolite and will make others uncomfortable, and parents do not like to hear them. Let him know that such words are bad and he will reduce the use of such words in the future.

When parents find that their children have inappropriate behavior, they should try to avoid "labeling" their children's behavior, let alone saying: He is like this. That will make the child feel frustrated and feel that he cannot meet the requirements of adults, become unconfident and irritable, and his own behavior will not improve.