Why is postpartum depression common? Often it’s because family members don’t support you

Raising a child is not easy, and those who have never been a mother cannot understand it. Children are sometimes warm angels who make you feel that the world is beautiful, and sometimes they are hateful "devils" who make you crazy and irritable. The following is a look at why it is easy to suffer from postpartum depression. Usually it is because of the lack of support from family members.

Why is postpartum depression common?

1. Husband does not take action and family members do not support

Children will not grow up without any support, nor will they be healthy all year round. If the father always acts as a hands-off boss, if family members think that "men earn money to support the family and women take care of the family" is a matter of course, and put the responsibility of taking care of the children and the family on the mother alone, who will not collapse?

It is the mother who feeds, changes diapers, and puts away toys; it is the mother who cooks, washes clothes, and cleans; it is the mother who coaxes the baby to sleep, tells stories, and rushes to the hospital overnight when the baby is sick... Even when the baby is sick, it is the mother who is the first to be blamed by the whole family!

Without support and understanding, you have to endure all the hardships and bear all the tiredness by yourself. The resentment in your heart accumulates over time and often explodes when the child is disobedient.

2. Being too socially closed and isolated by friends

Many mothers rarely go on dates and go shopping with their girlfriends after having children. One reason is that they really don’t have time to take care of the children. The other reason is that even if they leave the children at home, they will miss going home within an hour of going out. There is no other way, as there is a little ancestor at home waiting for food!

In the long run, mothers will lose their own social circle and will be trapped in taking care of their children's eating, drinking, defecating and urinating every day. They have no one to talk to when they are upset, and no outlet to vent when they are stressed. It is easy for them to use their children as punching bags.

3. Career is hindered and people are frustrated

An overly heavy and intense sense of giving is a major killer of parent-child relationships.

"I have sacrificed my bright future to raise you, and you are still so disobedient!" Ask yourself, have you ever complained and condemned like this in your subconscious mind?

I have a friend who used to be the editor-in-chief of a fashion magazine. She reluctantly resigned after giving birth to a baby three years ago. One day, on the way to the vegetable market, she met her former subordinate, a slovenly mother and a high-spirited new editor-in-chief. My friend felt so ashamed that she wanted to find a crack in the ground to crawl into.

From then on, the sense of sacrifice of giving up her brilliant career for the sake of her child was like a needle in her heart. Whenever the child threw a tantrum or acted willfully, it would hurt her heart. She would not help but get angry and scold the child loudly. She would become hysterical like a shrew.

Female stars also experienced postpartum depression

Because of "If Love", my cousin was attracted by Christy Chung. Although she is over 40 years old, has been married twice and has three baby daughters, her courage to pursue her own love and her personality of daring to love and hate make me sincerely admire her. Now she has entered into marriage with Zhang Lunshuo, whom she met in "If Love", and their life is happy and satisfactory, which makes others envious. However, the goddess who can now take care of three daughters single-handedly also suffered from postpartum depression when her second daughter Jaden was born: "I cried when I saw everything. I believe it was the influence of hormones after giving birth, which made me depressed. It was only after a month that I felt much better." Christy Chung was very lucky to be able to adjust herself quickly and quickly get out of postpartum depression. However, singer Christy Fan suffered from postpartum depression for 2 years after giving birth to twin sons.

Looking through Fanfan's Weibo, it's basically all about work and showing off her baby. She was once scolded by netizens for showing off her baby during the earthquake and National Day.

At first, her aunt didn't understand why she became such a "baby-showing maniac" until she saw an interview in which Fan Fan revealed that she had been adjusting psychologically for two years after giving birth. She had difficulty breathing due to excessive anxiety and sought help from a psychologist for postpartum depression. In the interview, Fan Fan said: "I found out I was pregnant after falling, and then I gave birth more than a month prematurely. I felt a sense of guilt towards my children and wanted to compensate them a lot."

The host of "The Funny Elf", Xiao S, also said on the show that she was often "depressed" after giving birth. She was also made to cry by her other two daughters and cried while watching TV. The fact that Da S and Kevin Tsai were filling in for her on "Kangxi" also made her feel that "I was no longer needed" and she almost suffered from postpartum depression.

How to improve postpartum depression

1. Prevent the body from being infected before delivery and maintain a healthy state;

2. If you find that the mother has the above symptoms, inform her in time, tell her that it is normal and don't worry too much, often enlighten her, show the positive side of life, especially as a husband, give her enough love and care, and family members should also give the mother enough psychological support;

3. Avoid interference from external factors and control the influx of bad information;

4. Let the mother listen to some relaxing music to relieve psychological pressure;

5. In severe cases, appropriate medication can be used for treatment, but it is generally not recommended.

After giving birth to a baby, the mother feels like she has gone through the gates of hell. It is their strength that allows the baby to come into this world. Therefore, regardless of whether the mother suffers from postpartum depression or not, the family should give enough care to give the small family more love.

Does medication have an effect on relieving postpartum depression?

Although depression does not have visible symptoms like a cold or fever, it is also a real disease. Your family may not understand you because they lack knowledge about mental illness. You might as well ask him to accompany you to see a psychiatrist and let the doctor tell him, as a third-party authority, the risks of the disease and the necessity of drug treatment. Currently, no drug is certain not to affect breastfeeding. If your child has already added complementary foods or is drinking milk powder, you can weigh whether your physical and mental health or your child's nutrition is more important. If you still decide not to take medicine after weighing the pros and cons, you can try some non-drug methods. For example, choose a sport that you like and can stick to, such as running, swimming, yoga, etc., and stick to it for a period of time, and your mood may gradually improve. Find a way to get yourself in contact with sunlight every day, and it is best to ensure that the sunlight time is more than one hour. Taking deep and slow breaths when you are anxious can relieve tension.