How to educate a disobedient child? Should a disobedient child be spanked?

Educating children is a very complicated and long-term thing. If the child is disobedient, it will be a headache. So, when the child is disobedient, how should we deal with it?

Help your baby develop good behavior habits

The older generation often says that a child's future can be seen at the age of three. If a child can develop good behavior habits at a young age, it can be said that they will benefit from them for a lifetime. Parents should praise their children for what they do well, criticize and correct what they do not do well, and do a good job of being a "mentor".

When we are young, we are like a blank sheet of paper, with unlimited space and possibilities, but it is also easy to go astray. Therefore, parents must guide them in a timely manner and start to cultivate habits from an early age.

1. Start with daily trivial matters such as eating and sleeping.

The ancients taught us not to let small kindnesses go unrewarded. Good habits need to be developed from the little things around us, with constant repetition and emphasis until they take root in our subconscious mind.

2. Lead by example and set a role model for your children.

Parents are their babies' lifelong mentors, and most of their behaviors are inspired by imitating their parents. Therefore, as adults, we must restrain ourselves with stricter requirements and never say one thing and do another.

3. Pay attention to the method and approach of use, and don’t just use rough methods.

The theory that a good child is born under the stick is not suitable for today's rapid development of civilization. Scientific parenting is the only long-term solution. Teaching the truth through games may be more conducive to children's acceptance. Children have limited understanding ability and are basically unable to digest those empty concepts. Therefore, learning to guide step by step is the key. In addition, parents must praise their children more and affirm every progress. Your praise is the greatest motivation for them. Being simple and rough will only push children further away from good habits.

4. Persevere.

It takes a certain amount of time to accumulate and settle good behavior patterns. Only through continuous practice and study can we integrate them into our lives without having to do them deliberately.

5. Pay attention to cooperating with kindergarten teachers.

It is impossible to know in real time how your child is doing in kindergarten, so mothers should communicate with the class teacher frequently to keep abreast of the child's recent status and correct any problems as soon as they are discovered. In addition, kindergarten teachers have seen countless children and will definitely have valuable experience to share with you.

What are some common bad behaviors of babies?

It is very common for babies to have bad behaviors, because children are still in the process of establishing their sense of right and wrong, and are prone to acquire some bad habits. Such behaviors as hitting others, throwing tantrums, not being able to concentrate, not eating well, and being rebellious are all common bad behaviors of babies. How should parents deal with these behaviors?

How to educate children who are disobedient

There are always some special reasons why children are disobedient. Parents should pay attention to observation and analysis to find the right reasons. You should observe your children carefully and guide them patiently. You should not hold a stalemate. You should make your rules clear, but make sure your children know what they are.

Divert your child's attention

Children will go through a period of rebellious psychology when they reach a certain age. They will not do what the adults say, which means they are disobedient. When you encounter such a child, you must patiently persuade him. If persuading him doesn't work after a long time, you might as well put the matter aside and do something else to divert the child's attention. Then, after a while, you can guide and persuade the child again, and perhaps the effect will be much better.

Find out the cause and prescribe the right remedy

There are always some special reasons why children are disobedient. Parents should pay attention to observation and analysis to find the right reasons. For example, if a child feels aggrieved and unhappy, but cannot express it and cannot let it go, he will take the opportunity to vent to his parents and go against them in everything. At this time, we should find a way to let the child release his inner grievances. For another example, if a child is sick, feels uncomfortable, and feels uncomfortable, but the adults do not notice it and treat the child according to the routine, the child will be particularly "stubborn".

In short, we must observe children carefully, guide them patiently, and never let both sides hold a stalemate. If this continues, either the adults will eventually be no match for the children and will end up listening to them, thus encouraging the children's bad temper of making a fuss whenever they are dissatisfied with something; or the parents will not be able to help but beat the children, causing harm to the children's hearts.

Set certain rules for your baby

Be clear about your rules, but make sure your child knows what they are. Say something like, "We can't hit people. If you get angry, tell Mingming that you want your toy back," or, "Don't forget to hold Mom's hand in the parking lot."

If your child has trouble following these rules (every child does), find other solutions. For example, if he hits his sister because he feels left out, have him help feed or bathe her, and then schedule special times for him to be alone with you. If he slips out of bed because he's afraid of the dark, place a flashlight on his nightstand.

Give your child some choices

Providing your child with opportunities to make his own choices will allow him to exercise his newfound autonomy within a controlled environment. For example, ask your child, "Do you think you can cross the street by yourself, or do you want me to hold your hand and walk you across?" "Do you want to set the table, or take the dishes to the table and wait for me to set it?" I believe this will be more effective than telling him what he must do!

When children do something wrong, they should control their emotions

Although you may want to scold your child when he does something he shouldn't, you should control yourself. When a child does something wrong, he is already very scared, and letting him be more emotionally affected will not make him do better. In fact, scolding him may only make his behavior worse in the future.