A naughty child pours dirty water into the infusion bottle. How to discipline this naughty child?

Recently, an old lady in Zhengzhou, Henan Province, was receiving an IV drip due to sinusitis. Unexpectedly, her grandson poured dirty water into the IV bottle, causing her life to be in danger. Now, the editor of No. 5.com will show you how to discipline a naughty child who poured dirty water into the IV bottle.

How to cure "naughty children"

Research in modern brain science and child psychology tells us that the brain development and cognitive ability of children aged 3 to 6 only support specific images and situations. For example, if you want them to understand 1+1=2, the best way is to give them an apple and then another apple. They do not yet have the ability to think abstractly. This is why most children around the world go to elementary school at the age of 6-7? Because the ability of abstract logical thinking is not developed until after the age of 7, and it is suitable to learn abstract knowledge such as arithmetic, letters, and Chinese characters. Similarly, if the children cannot even understand the logical relationship between the parents' words, how can they understand and remember the parents' words? Because of the cognitive characteristics of children, it is really like playing the lute to a cow to reason with them. Compared with reasoning, games are the best educational tools for children in their early years. The games here are certainly not electronic games like Honor of Kings, nor are they special games like hide-and-seek or handkerchief throwing. They are daily games that can be played anytime and anywhere with children. From pillow fights to shopping malls; from waking children up in the morning to encouraging them to participate in sports; from cooking together to making the crying children laugh. Games are the language that children can understand and use for effective communication and that is in tune with their frequency and band.

Why is this? First of all, games are situational. For example, if he is a policeman and you are a thief in the game, a set of corresponding behavioral norms will follow. In the situation, children naturally learn that the police should do this and the thief should do this, rather than just talking about the truth, which is very consistent with the cognitive characteristics of children. Secondly, there is another very important feature of games, that is, all games are accompanied by happiness. Whether it triggers laughter and whether it allows you and your children to merge in happiness is the most important criterion for testing the quality of games. Because of the happy emotional experience, certain abilities and methods that children master in the game will be solidified into their daily behavioral norms. Or the child has accumulated some negative emotions before, which can be effectively relieved through games. For example, many children like to play doctors and give injections to their parents or dolls. This is actually through role replacement, releasing the fear of being injected and enjoying the power and control of being a doctor.

How to prevent "naughty children"

Where is the happiness of raising a child? When the child is happily playing with food and dancing, you see him, you are infected by his joy and presence, and you smile at each other, which is the moment of happiness. The mother's life is expanded and nourished in this way. Where is the happiness of the child? The happiness of the child lies in being seen by his mother when he dances and enjoys food! The mother feels his happiness, and the child's existence is thus confirmed. Where is the hardship of raising a child? It is that when the child is focused on playing with food, the mother turns a blind eye to the child's current feelings. The mother opens her eyes, but is completely blind, living anxiously in the world of imagination in her mind, staring at the child's every move: why didn't he use the spoon to scoop out the food and put it in his mouth, why didn't he eat an egg today, he always plays like this, it's unruly, he will be malnourished, how should I train and correct his bad habits... Raising a child like this is really a torture. For both parents and children, it is true. When a child's feelings are often seen and valued by his parents, the child will naturally know how to be considerate of others' feelings and respect his own feelings at the same time. Such children respect the rules and are warm and flexible, not rigid, and have particularly high emotional intelligence. Children who are always preached and controlled will be unable to control their "entertainment" in public and disturb others. When a child is sure that his parents are willing to respond to him, protect him, and cherish his feelings, the child will bravely tell his parents when he is abused. Otherwise, he will easily be frightened by the perpetrator. For example, a child who was pricked by a needle cries and doesn't want to go to kindergarten, but his parents just think his crying is annoying.

Let children be themselves

A letter from a mother to her 8-year-old daughter has touched countless people. To my baby:

1. If someone does something wrong to you, you don’t need to apologize first. Don’t say: “I’m sorry, it’s all my fault.” The three words “I’m sorry” only have meaning when they are spoken sincerely.

2. When you don't want to go on a date with someone, you don't need to rack your brains to come up with any reasons. You don't owe anyone an explanation, just say: "No, thank you."

3. If you want pizza, go for pizza. Don't order a salad just because others think you're going to eat it.

4. You dress to please yourself. You don’t need to grow long hair or wear skirts for others. You can dress yourself however you want.

5. Don’t suppress your tears. Crying means you have emotions that need to be released. It doesn’t mean you are weak, it’s just human instinct.

6. When you don't want to laugh, don't laugh. When someone asks you to laugh, you don't have to laugh back.

7. Don't hide your true thoughts and opinions, speak them out loud, your voice should be heard.

8. Don't apologize for who you are. Be brave, confident, authentic, and kind. Be true to yourself.

In this society, many women are often asked to be considerate, not too strong or too extreme, and to learn to compromise for others. This mother wants her daughter to know that it is really not important to please others, but to be yourself first and to be happy with yourself. You can say what you want to say, go where you want to go, and eat what you want to eat. You don't need to compromise and meet everyone's requirements. You just need to learn to be happy and be the most authentic self.

Create a free but not indulgent growth environment

Children start from scratch, from birth to walking, talking, eating, writing...gradually completing "seemingly impossible tasks" to adapt to this complex and ever-changing world. When children are 2.5 to 6 years old, they are in a sensitive period of social norms, and begin to gradually move away from self-centeredness, and have a clear tendency to make friends and group activities. At this time, some of the child's inappropriate behaviors are just explorations. If parents have inappropriate characterizations at this time, the child will really have problems. This is the aspect of freedom. However, the sooner parents instill a sense of rules in their children, the better. It is necessary to realize that the rules of children come from parents, and parents' personal example plays a decisive role. In a free environment, children do not resist the rules set by their parents. When parents propose rules, they are often willing to accept them and gradually internalize them into their own rules. Before the child is 6 years old, he should develop some basic behavioral rules. He needs to know that if he does something wrong, he must be responsible for his behavior, that is, he must pay a certain price for his wrong behavior, such as appropriately depriving or delaying the satisfaction of what he cares about most or what he wants to do most. Moreover, parents must do what they say and cannot easily compromise because of the child's crying.