How do parents teach their children to get along with each other and how do they deal with children quarreling?

When there are many children in the family, it is easy to have quarrels or even fights. However, brothers and sisters should love and support each other. Therefore, parents should educate their children to share, compromise and respect each other, so as to ensure that they can reduce the number of quarrels.

How do children get along well?

Learn to share things: Children may fight over things, and toys, clothes, and utensils may be the fuse of quarrels. Therefore, you should teach them to share, otherwise both of them may lose these items.

Know how to compromise and give in: Children always hope to get the best benefits, but after all, they are not the only ones in the family. Therefore, you should teach them to compromise and take a step back to each other so that things can be resolved satisfactorily.

You can talk about everything: There are some things that children may not know how to say to their parents, or may not want to say, but they can talk and discuss with their brothers and sisters. Therefore, you should let them try to confide in each other.

Give each other space: No matter how old your children are, they deserve some private space and time. Therefore, you should teach them to give each other space and a little privacy respect, just as you give them.

Learn to share responsibilities: Children may need to work together in their future lives, so you can train them to share responsibilities while they are still young.

How to deal with children quarreling

They solve it themselves: Sometimes children can find their own way to solve problems, whether it involves fighting or not. Therefore, you can choose not to interfere and let the children solve their own problems.

Set ground rules: You need to set some basic rules at home so that your children know what they can and cannot do, and what the consequences will be if they break them.

Intervene appropriately: If children argue too much, it may even turn into a fight and hurt each other. At this time, you should jump out to intervene to prevent them from hurting each other.

Give a warning: If the children quarrel over toys, you can also give them a warning and ask them to stop quarreling or fighting immediately, such as giving them 3 minutes to solve the problem, otherwise the toys will be confiscated.

Communicate and coordinate together: When children are angry, it is best to separate them immediately and let them calm down. After they calm down, sit down together to review the whole incident, communicate and express each other's ideas.

The impact of parents' quarrels on children

Fear: When parents quarrel, children will definitely feel fear when they see their two most beloved people blushing, swearing at each other, and even fighting. This is especially true when the child is young. It will shock him or her and cause fear, which will hurt his or her young heart.

Psychological burden: For children who are a little more sensible, they will be sad and have wild thoughts because of their parents' quarrel. The heavy psychological burden will lead to inattention, listlessness and depression.

Lack of security: If parents often quarrel, it will lead to a lack of security in children. When parents quarrel, they will think, "Will my parents get divorced? Do they both want me? Will they no longer love me?" If this continues for a long time, it will lead to a lack of security.

Distrust: A loving family quarrels over trivial matters or misunderstandings. In the eyes of children, they will feel that no matter how close or how much they love each other, they will not love forever, cannot be relied on forever, and are not trustworthy. This may lead to distrust in their future life.

Inferiority complex: Other people's parents are harmonious, but your own parents are noisy, forming a strong contrast. Especially when other children laugh at you, you will feel inferior and dare not play with other children.

Bad temper: Parents are the best teachers for their children. Children are born with strong imitation ability. From babbling to normal communication with others, it can tell everything. When parents quarrel, it will definitely affect their personality and they are likely to develop a bad temper.

Poor interpersonal relationships: If parents often quarrel, they will become less trusting of others, lack a sense of security, have a bad temper, etc. Then many problems will arise when interacting with others. If others don’t like them, they may isolate themselves more and their interpersonal skills will become worse and worse.