What should I do if my child doesn't want to go to school during his rebellious period? What should I do if my child has a bad temper and is irritable during his rebellious period?

Usually, children will go through several stages of rebelliousness during their growth, and parents usually need to use the right way to communicate with their children. So let's find out what to do if children don't want to go to school during their rebellious period? What to do if children have a bad temper during their rebellious period?

After a child enters adolescence, he or she is basically an independent individual. In this case, the child may have some aversion to learning. In this case, it is only appropriate for the child to have some relevant communication. At this time, if parents can communicate with their children in an equal and friendly manner, parents will understand many issues that they do not know or have not even thought about. Because children of this age are already very mature in their thinking, and the amount of information in today's society is relatively large, let the child decide on his or her own what he or she wants to decide. Communicate more with the child at ordinary times, so that the child can tell the adults what is in his or her heart, and then relevant solutions can be made. But never deny that this will have a great impact on the child.

1. Parents should help their children understand the harm of temper: Parents should help their children understand the harm of temper, and tell them that temper will not only hurt friends, hinder learning, but also harm the body. It is a bad personality trait and they should pay more attention to it in their current social circle. For example, tell them: "Losing temper over a small matter will greatly reduce people's impression of you and may also hurt others."

2. Parents should strengthen their own cultivation: Parents should educate their children to be open-minded, calm, and cool-headed, not to be petty, and to learn to be generous and tolerant. At the same time, parents should set an example for their children and influence them subtly. If parents are impatient and lose their temper when encountering something, it will also have a negative impact on their children.

3. Parents should provide psychological training to their children: Parents can let their children use labels to remind themselves frequently, write the word "control anger" on the desk, wall and books to remind themselves to get rid of the bad habit of getting angry, or when the anger is rising but has not yet occurred, silently say "must stay calm" or "don't get angry" in their hearts, which can also ease their emotions to a certain extent.

In itself, children’s studies in primary school are not that heavy, but once parents enroll their children in too many classes, children will gradually feel the pressure. Since children do not have a complete independent personality in primary school, they are still very dependent on their parents. They will not rebel against their parents. When children reach puberty at the age of 10-16, they start to go to junior high school. Some parents are afraid of falling behind other children, so they have already started to enroll their children in the subject classes required for the first year of junior high school before school starts. They want their children to be ahead of other children. Once the children start school, since the knowledge learned in junior high school is several times or even more than that in primary school, the homework is not comparable to that in primary school. Children entering puberty have a certain independent personality. At this time, classroom and extracurricular homework will cause great pressure on children. When the pressure reaches a certain level, it will make children develop a rebellious mentality, and thus oppose everything their parents want them to do, including learning that brings them the greatest pressure.

The first people who need to wake up are parents. Perhaps it is because parents have been using mobile phones all the time and their children lack parental companionship, which leads to their problems. Therefore, parents should set an example and give up mobile phones or try not to use them after returning home. If you must use your mobile phone for work, try to wait until your children have rested before using it. If there is an emergency, you should hide in the room alone to operate your mobile phone. Sometimes when the school assigns homework or tasks that need to be completed via mobile phones, you can communicate with your children and return them after use. Children need to rest and relax during their studies. At this time, parents should try to accompany their children and do some activities with them, such as talking to them, playing Gobang, and try to get them out of their dependence on mobile phones.