What should parents do when their children make mistakes?

Children are still young and will inevitably make mistakes. Parents must handle them carefully and calmly. So what should parents do when their children make mistakes? What occasions should parents pay attention to when educating their children? The following editor will give you a detailed introduction.

What should parents do when their children make mistakes?

In view of the children's mistakes, we should teach them about social moral norms and behavioral standards. This kind of teaching should not only focus on the facts, deepen the children's superficial understanding, but also conduct a comprehensive analysis of the multifaceted causes of the mistakes to avoid isolation and one-sidedness.

To instill social moral norms and behavioral codes, we should not use preaching, but adopt methods that children like, such as storytelling, playing games, moral conversations, etc. The method may seem minor at first glance, but it is actually very important. It not only affects the degree of education children receive, but also affects their understanding of education.

The purpose of using stories, games and moral talks is to make children sensible, distinguish right from wrong, and receive education, so that children can identify themselves with their mistakes while listening to stories, playing games and accepting moral talks. If the routine of "Look how good xxx is, you are so bad" is used, children will be disgusted.

In order to let children understand their mistakes and their harm, they should be taught to "look in the mirror" by themselves, that is, to carry out "psychological replacement" to recognize their own wrong behaviors. This will continuously improve their psychological level and cultivate the habit of being strict with themselves.

On the basis of children's recognition of their mistakes, instead of forcing them to make guarantees, parents should inspire them to take responsibility and recover their losses. For example, if they hit or scold someone, they should take the initiative to apologize, and if they damage someone else's property, they should use their saved pocket money to compensate.

Children's mistakes tend to repeat themselves, and it is unrealistic to expect to cure them all in one go. They should be educated repeatedly.

Parents teach their children to pay attention to occasions

In front of others: When adults make mistakes, they don’t want to be criticized in front of others, and the same is true for children. They also want to save face and self-esteem, so we can refrain from criticizing them in front of many people, and when talking with other parents or colleagues, we should not compare them with other children in front of the children, as this will hurt the children’s self-esteem and cause them to rebel, which will not achieve the desired educational effect.

Before bed: Due to work, parents nowadays hardly have much time to spend with their children during the day. The only time they spend with their children is before going to bed at night. Some parents will use this time to communicate with their babies about issues such as school and getting along with classmates. Some parents use this time to criticize their children's mistakes.

Bring up all the mistakes that happened during this period and talk about them. If you can't point them out immediately when the child makes a mistake, there is no need to bring it up again later because it will not have any effect. At the same time, if you treat the mistake as a very serious issue, the child will be defensive. As soon as you say you want to talk to him, the first thing he thinks of is that he will be criticized again.

Meals: Nowadays, many families use mealtime as a time for criticism. They criticize their children while they eat. The consequences of this are: first, it affects the child's digestion. Second, the educational effect is almost non-existent. If this continues for a long time, the situation will be "you talk yours, I eat mine". Therefore, for the sake of everyone, it is best not to criticize your children during meals.

Faults: Many of our parents have a habit of bringing up a large number of previous things when criticizing one thing, and bringing up one shortcoming with many other shortcomings, and then talking about them all at once. In the end, the children are confused and don't know why they are being criticized. Therefore, when children make mistakes, we should stick to the facts and not bring up previous mistakes. This is something parents should pay attention to.

Emotions: It is painful to be unable to vent emotions, but what we should think about more is that we vent our anger on our children and hurt them, and the final result will still hurt ourselves. So when we are angry, we can choose to do something else, ignore them, and wait until the emotions calm down before talking to the children.