Why do babies like to bully friends who are younger than them?

The baby looks very well-behaved, but in kindergarten he likes to bully friends younger than him. So why does the baby like to bully friends younger than him? Why does the baby like to hit people? How to prevent the baby from hitting people? How can parents teach their children not to hit people? The following editor will give you a detailed introduction.

The baby bullies friends who are younger than him

In fact, it is normal for babies around one year old to show aggressive behaviors, and these behaviors should be viewed dialectically: on the one hand, such behaviors are just a sign that the child has developed to this age, and every child will go through this period, so parents do not need to worry too much.

On the other hand, although this is a necessary process for children, if parents do not give their children correct guidance on their wrong behaviors, children are likely to develop the bad habit of hitting others.

There are many reasons why babies hit others. Some are because their parents often quarrel and fight, and the baby is influenced by them; some are because the baby sees other children in the nursery and the children next door hitting others, and finds it interesting, so he imitates them; some are because parents are afraid that their babies will be bullied, and deliberately teach their babies "If anyone hits you, you hit him back, and you can't suffer this loss", which is a wrong education...

Why do babies like to hit people?

He has poor skills in socializing with other children. If he wants something and they don't give it to him, and he doesn't know how to "ask for it", he will hit them.

Poor language expression ability. He cannot express his own ideas and requests clearly, and when others do not follow his instructions, he will hit others when he is in a bad mood.

He likes to watch other children cry after being beaten and lacks sympathy.

The parents spoiled the child. When he started beating, they didn't stop him strictly, so it became a habit.

Seeking attention. When children do good things, they often don’t get enough attention, but they really want to be noticed. When they don’t get attention, they have to do some stronger “actions”: hitting, to attract attention.

There were big changes in life and I couldn't adapt. For example, I moved, changed nannies, went to kindergarten, etc. I didn't know what was going on and couldn't express myself, so I waved my arms and hit them aimlessly.

How to prevent your baby from hitting you

Set up rules. Tell him that hitting others is not good and that mommy doesn't like children who hit others. Repeating and being specific will have an effect.

Avoid delivering heavy blows yourself and don’t give him a “role model” to emulate.

Encourage him to tell the reason why he hit others. Maybe he can't express it clearly, so adults should help him express it clearly and then help him analyze it.

Care about his illness, fatigue, and hunger, and try your best to solve them for him.

Improve his ability. Help him do everything well. And train him carefully in the future. When he becomes more capable, does things well, is happy, and has stronger self-confidence, he will not hit others.

Improve self-confidence. Always pay attention to praising his good behavior, improve his self-confidence, and make him feel loved and noticed. That's it.

How do parents teach their children not to hit others?

Parents should set a good example and avoid engaging in aggressive behavior such as beating their children.

Don't let your children watch violent television.

Babies should be taught to be civilized and friendly when playing with other children. They should not hit or scold others, and should apologize if they bully other children.

It is necessary to cultivate children's various skills, especially social skills and language skills.

Teach children to express their anger and parents should provide appropriate guidance.

If your own child is beaten, parents should have the courage to criticize other children. Otherwise, our children will lose their sense of security and feel that they can only protect themselves by beating others.

We cannot have double standards. If our child is attacked, we will make a fuss endlessly; but if our child attacks others, we will not care and even feel complacent about it. This can only have a very bad influence on the child.