What should I do if my baby often causes trouble at home?

Babies are naturally active and always make trouble. The house will be in a mess when mom is away. So what should we do if babies often make trouble at home? What should parents pay attention to and not do when babies make trouble? The following editor will introduce you in detail.

What to do if your baby is causing trouble at home

Parents should be calm and tolerant

Don't get angry or scold your child when you see him or her tearing apart toys or making a mess at home. Such "destructiveness" is actually worth encouraging. Child education experts say that tearing apart things that interest them is a manifestation of children's learning and exploration. They don't intentionally destroy things, but because they are interested in them and want to see what's going on. For example, many boys like to tear apart toys to see what's inside the car and why the car moves. They are immersed in the things they like and try to find the answers with their own hands. Parents should be tolerant of their children's "destruction" because the process of destruction is a learning process. Don't criticize your children harshly, and don't say warnings and threats such as "Don't tear apart toys anymore, or I won't buy you one next time." Because parents' criticism and threats are likely to kill children's valuable spirit of exploration.

Actively encourage and participate

Because the process of "destruction" is a process in which children's hands and eyes are active, which can promote the development of their thinking. Encouraging children to "destroy" appropriately is to encourage their creativity and interest in exploring more things. Therefore, when parents see their children dismantling toys, they should squat down and participate in their children's activities, "What's inside?" "Why does it move?" "Can you put it back together?" ... Guide and help them find the answers together, and then restore the disassembled toys to their original state with the children. In this way, children can learn more from "destruction".

Encourage children to think

In daily life, parents should ask more questions to let their children guess and think. For example, when the alarm clock ticks, parents can ask why the alarm clock rings and why it ticks. Why can a ball jump so high when it is hit? If the air is deflated, can it still jump so high? After the questions are raised, parents can take the initiative to lead them to find the answers from "destruction".

What should parents pay attention to when their baby is destructive?

Parents should not ignore their children's words and deeds. Pay more attention to children and communicate with them more. Do not punish children who are disruptive. Parents should support children's curiosity and encourage their desire for knowledge and spirit of exploration. Pay attention to children's unintentional destructive behavior. Parents should not destroy children's playful nature and try to educate children in practice.

Destructive power has potential

"Making trouble" is one of the activities that children are most keen on and parents are most troubled by. We usually only see the negative side of those "destructive" behaviors, but rarely see their positive side. Or when children's "destructive" behaviors continue to escalate, they can't hold back their temper and explode, causing more problems. Why are children so keen on "making trouble", and how should we deal with it?

Don't rush to say "No": Please understand his "destructive behavior". The baby's "destructive behavior" can be divided into "unintentional destruction" and "intentional destruction". Because the hand-eye-brain coordination ability of 1-2-year-old babies is not fully developed, the ability to analyze and judge is relatively lacking, and the estimation of time, space distance, object weight and volume is inaccurate, their destructive behavior is more of "unintentional destruction". As the baby's self-control ability improves, he begins to show some "intentional destruction" behavior. For example, when the baby puts up building blocks, the parents are praising him, and he is clapping his hands complacently, he may suddenly push down the stacked blocks and laugh happily.

In most cases, the baby's destructive behavior is a manifestation of his curiosity. For example, what does the inside of a toy car look like? What makes it turn? If the wheels are removed, will the toy car still run? When faced with toys or other things of interest, his mind is always filled with all kinds of novel ideas. Once these ideas come into being, he will act without hesitation, taking the toy car apart to have a look, and removing the wheels of the toy car to try. Thus, the baby's destructive behavior occurs. The baby's destructive behavior is a manifestation of his growing curiosity and trying to explore the mysteries of the environment in his own way.

In this case, suppressing the baby's "destructive behavior" may be a way to go against his growth needs. It is better to let go and allow him to explore the world in a similar way within our acceptable range. Of course, if it is a matter of principle, as parents, we need to impose constraints.

Give your baby a destructive sky

1) Understand your baby’s destructive behavior

When you find your baby's destructive behavior, don't blame or even punish him/her easily. If conditions permit, it is best to provide your baby with some cheap and safe toys for him/her to disassemble and play with, so as to satisfy his/her curious nature. Building blocks and puzzle toys are excellent props to satisfy your baby's curious nature. Use puzzle toys to assemble various models, give your baby the opportunity to disassemble them, and then encourage him/her to reassemble the disassembled models. Some toys that can be used for knocking and hitting, such as small drums and hammering toys, can also resolve the baby's "destructive" nature of liking to knock and hit.

2) Provide opportunities for your baby to release his desire for destruction

When parents are repairing electrical appliances, furniture or other items, let the baby watch from the side, and provide him with things to do within his ability while ensuring safety, so as to satisfy his curiosity to learn new things. If parents do not have the opportunity to disassemble the items that make the baby curious, take the baby to visit the manufacturer or repair department of the items, so that the baby can learn some knowledge about the structure, function and operation of these items through the visit.

3) Provide a way for babies to acquire knowledge

Buy your baby some CDs, books and simulation models that introduce this knowledge, or take your baby to visit science and technology museums and other places, so that he can acquire relevant knowledge through these media and satisfy his curiosity.

4) Give your baby the opportunity to “dissect” nature

Take your baby into nature, dissect the flowers, stems, and fruits of plants with your baby, observe the veins and textures of leaves under a microscope, etc. Use safer and more interesting things to attract your baby's curiosity, so that your baby's destructive behavior will cease and be transformed into more scientific exploratory behavior.

5) Prevent your baby from unnecessary destructive behavior

When parents do housework or other things, they can let the baby do it together, which can satisfy his curiosity and prevent him from causing trouble. For example, if the baby is very curious about the mother cooking, the mother can put a stool for the baby and let the baby stand next to the mother, and then support his little hands to stir-fry. In order to prevent the hot oil from hurting the baby, the mother can put gloves on the baby's hands and put a small helmet on the baby's head. If the baby is interested in the potted plants at home, the mother can also let the baby help watering, loosening the soil, etc.

Special recommendation: Good things for your baby to destroy

There are many things that babies can destroy, and parents can provide them according to their actual situation. For example, waste newspapers can be torn, rubbed, and soaked in a basin of water to turn into paper pulp. These scraps of paper, paper balls, or paper pulp can also be used to expand a lot of games - the paper pulp can be stuck on other objects, and after drying, it will become a very interesting sculpture. Scrap can not only be pasted on other things, but also used to play static electricity games, so that babies will be interested in scientific exploration activities. As long as we are willing, we can always use various waste items at home to meet the baby's "destruction" needs and make his "destructive behavior" more meaningful.