What should I do if my baby is always angry? Mothers should be patient and comfort them.

As children grow older, their emotional expressions and experiences become richer, which is a sign of their growth. For angry babies, mothers should also learn to accept them, find out the reasons why they are angry, and guide them correctly so that they can grow up healthily in a happy mood.

The reason why babies are always angry

1. It may be due to calcium and iron deficiency

Research in pediatric medicine shows that due to the rapid growth of children and the lack of outdoor activities and sunlight, they often lack calcium and iron absorption. Babies with iron and calcium deficiency often show symptoms such as excessive sweating, mental irritability, lack of interest in the surrounding environment, night terrors, sudden awakening at night, crying, etc. Therefore, babies who are prone to anger may be deficient in calcium and iron.

2. It may be that the needs are not met

The emotional response of a baby is mainly related to whether his basic life needs are met. For example, the emotional response of a baby aged 1 to 3 years old is related to the satisfaction of physiological needs as well as social needs. For example, babies of this age need to walk independently. If parents let them walk freely within a certain range, the baby will feel happy; if parents insist on carrying them and do not meet their wishes, the baby will cry and get angry.

3. It may be that he has not formed a secure attachment with his mother.

In psychology, attachment is divided into secure attachment and insecure attachment. Babies with insecure attachment are prone to anxiety, tension, emotional instability, indifference to others, and difficulty in obtaining satisfaction. They are more likely to be emotionally unstable and angry in an unfamiliar environment.

4. May be influenced by parents or people around you

Infants and toddlers have strong imitative abilities. If parents often lose their temper, babies are likely to think that losing temper is normal, or even correct, and imitate it. The emotional atmosphere of the family in which the baby lives largely affects the baby's emotions.

In addition, if parents are very emotional and often cannot control their emotions well, it will also make the baby lack a sense of security, prone to anxiety and temper tantrums.

5. It may be related to natural temperament

Some babies are born to cry, have bad tempers, and are restless. Some babies are well-behaved and quiet from childhood. This is due to the different temperament types of babies. Psychologist Thomas divides infant temperament into easy type, difficult type, and slow type. Difficult type babies are emotionally unstable, easily irritable, noisy, and not easy to accept comfort from adults.

What to do if your baby is always angry

1. Pay attention to your baby’s needs

Sometimes, babies lose their temper to attract their mother's attention. If the mother is concentrating on doing other things or paying more attention to others than the baby, the baby will feel lost and sometimes lose his temper to attract the mother's attention. It turns out that losing temper is a little trick of the baby. Therefore, mothers should observe carefully, understand the baby's psychological and physiological needs, and meet the baby's reasonable requirements in time.

2. Parents demonstrate emotional self-control

The baby's mood is easily affected by the surrounding atmosphere, so the emotional demonstration of parents is very important for the baby's emotional development. The happy mood of parents is a good demonstration and infection for the child's mood. More importantly, parents should be good at controlling their own emotions. Moody moods will also make the baby at a loss and lead to unstable emotions. When the child makes you angry, you might as well count a few numbers in your mind first, and then talk to the child when the emotion calms down.

3. Respect your baby’s emotional experience

When a baby loses his temper, we need to analyze the reasons for his anger and encourage him to express his frustration and grievances. Parents should respect children's proper emotional expression and emotional experience. They should be calm and not impatient when dealing with some negative emotional expressions. They should praise children for their good emotional expressions and changes in a timely manner to help them develop good personality traits.

4. Teach your baby to express emotions correctly

Due to the limitations of life experience and ability, children do not know how to express and balance their emotions. Mothers can give their children the opportunity to vent their dissatisfaction by asking questions such as: Why are you unhappy? Who are you angry with?

Parents should also pay attention to teaching their babies to express their emotions in the correct way, rather than throwing things or hitting people. Parents should also set an example in this regard.

5. Listen to your baby patiently

The baby feels everything around him is new and fresh, and is willing to share his discoveries with mom and dad. Mom and dad should share the baby's feelings seriously. If the mother is very busy, or thinks what the baby says is childish and ridiculous, and disdains to listen, and is perfunctory to the baby, the baby will doubt the mother's love for him, and feel depressed, lonely and in a bad mood.

6. Help your baby regulate his emotions

If your baby loses his temper, you can use some methods to help him regulate his emotions, such as distraction and cold treatment.

For example, when your baby is crying, you can give him a toy or tell him a story to divert his attention and make him forget about what made him angry.

The cold treatment method is that when the baby is very emotional, you can temporarily ignore him, and the baby will slowly stop crying.

How to solve the problem of baby always getting angry

First, divert his attention. When a child is angry, for example, when the child is playing with toys or something is not successful, when angry, we can help the child to divert his attention, such as: "Baby, look at how there is a white cloud in the sky, the shape of this white cloud is so and so." In this way, his attention is diverted to another thing. This method is suitable for children in small and medium classes, because their attention is easily diverted. Second, when a child is angry, never stop it by force. When a child loses his temper and cries, give the child a time to vent, let the child vent the bad emotions, and don't stop it by force. Because the more you stop it by force, the child may lose his temper again because of this matter next time. After the child has lost his temper, we can chat with the child and summarize why he lost his temper and what the reason for the temper is. This needs to be summarized for the child. When summarizing, you must pay attention to empathy with the child, understand the child, and empathize with the child to help the child make a small improvement.

What does it mean when your baby is always angry?

First of all, this shows that the child's social and communication skills are not strong enough, and parents need to give the child positive guidance and help. Second, when the child is angry, we also need to consider whether it is due to physical reasons, because when the child is a little uncomfortable, he will also be irritable and easily angry, and we parents should pay attention to it. At the same time, if the child is prone to anger, we parents also need to reflect on it. We say that when many children have problems, we parents need to look for the reasons in ourselves. We need to observe whether the child imitates the parents' love of anger, whether he imitates the angry state of his parents, and whether his parents are also prone to anger.