What should I do if my child is very clingy? What should I do if my child is very dependent?

Many children are raised by their mothers or grandmothers from birth, but as they grow up to 1-2 years old, they like to stick to their mothers or grandmothers, and don't even want them to leave for a minute. Sometimes they have to rely on them to bring things to them, otherwise they will cry and make a fuss. So, what should I do if my child is very clingy? What should I do if my child is very dependent?

What to do if your child is very clingy

Children are very clingy, which is both a good thing and a bad thing for a mother. The good thing is that at least the mother is still very important to the child, but the bad thing is that her clinging to you won't let you do anything else, and it will even hinder the development of her self-independence.

In particular, some mothers or grandmothers can't stand their children crying. Once they cry, the mothers and grandmothers are helpless and can only let the children do whatever they want without any help.

In fact, if you want your child to be less clingy, you have to cultivate her independence. For example, if she falls down, don't be nervous and help her up. Instead, encourage her to get up by herself. If she is covered in dust, pat her clothes with your hands. If she cries because her knees or hands are hurt, you can give her a warm hug. Or you can say that they fell and made a hole on the ground, and it must hurt. Once they hear that others are in more pain than them, they may stop crying, or even mutter and ask for help.

In addition, enrolling your child in some interest classes will allow her to play with children of the same age and even have them make friends. Gradually, they will have the independence to find good friends on their own, and sometimes they will even forget about their mother or grandmother when they have friends.

What to do if your child is very dependent on others

1. Parents should not worry too much.

Many parents are worried that their children will cry on the first day of kindergarten when they send them to kindergarten for the first time. They are also worried at home that their children will not eat enough or drink enough in kindergarten. The more worried the parents are, the more dependent the children will be. They may even not go to kindergarten the next day. At this time, parents should patiently ask what new things are there in kindergarten, how are the friends, whether the dance at school is good, etc. to divert their attention and let them focus on kindergarten. This will help them to be interested in kindergarten and not make a fuss about not going to kindergarten the next day.

2. Assign tasks to your child

Many children aged 1-3 are very opinionated and have a lot of ideas and hands-on skills. Once parents arrange a small task (simple one), such as teaching their mother to dance after school, or teaching their mother to draw, they will learn it seriously and complete it excellently. This is a good diversion for them who are dependent on their parents.

3. Meet new friends

Take them to the park or children's playground to play. Just watch from the side and let the children know that you are paying attention to them but will not affect their play. Generally, children are very outgoing in these places and will slowly join in the play with other children while they are having fun.

What to do if your child is timid

Generally, children are timid because their parents are too focused on their children's education. They should take their children out more often and let them meet new children. This also shows that the child is overly dependent on his parents.

The more timid the child is, the more you as a parent should not yell at him or her, otherwise it will leave a psychological shadow on the child and make him or her timid, cowardly and fearful. Parents should not criticize the child, but patiently accompany her to play with other children or do things.