What to do if you feel sexually cold after giving birth? Sexual life is not harmonious after giving birth

Many mothers lose interest in sex after giving birth. In addition to the hard work and fatigue of raising a child, the physical trauma has not yet fully recovered. So what should they do when facing sexual apathy after giving birth? Is there any way to solve the problem of sexual disharmony after giving birth?

What to do if you have no interest in sex

In fact, this is not a big deal. If the mother is not interested in sex at present, or is afraid that sex will be painful at this time, she should actively communicate with her husband. Sex is only a part of an intimate relationship. Good communication and the joint care of the newborn baby by the couple are both manifestations of intimacy.

Before you regain your sexual desire, you can try other ways to maintain intimacy. For example, when your child is asleep, create time for the two of you to be alone. Even if it's just chatting and hugging, it can promote communication. You can also make phone calls and send messages when you are apart during the day. However, if communication with your husband does not restore your sexual desire, but instead you have signs such as oversensitivity, irritability, extreme fatigue, lack of fun, and feeling alienated from your child in your life, you should be alert to postpartum depression.

50% to 80% of women experience depression to some extent after giving birth, and 10% to 15% of mothers may even suffer from postpartum depression. If you are worried that you may be suffering from postpartum depression, talk to an obstetrician or psychiatrist as soon as possible. Timely treatment can help you recover as soon as possible.

What are the causes of postpartum sexual indifference?

1. Starting sexual life too early.

After a woman gives birth, the changes in her body and reproductive system caused by pregnancy and childbirth will have a certain inhibitory effect on her sexual desire. Generally, it will take two months after childbirth for all organs to return to normal and sexual desire to gradually return to the state before pregnancy. If the couple does not understand this and starts sex too early after childbirth, especially some husbands "do their own thing" without the wife's reluctance, this will not only affect the wife's physical recovery, but also cause the wife to dislike and hate sex, and then develop into sexual frigidity.

2. Overwork.

A harmonious and happy sex life needs to be based on good health and full energy. After giving birth, women often focus their energy on their children and have little interest in sex. If the husband stands aside and does not show any understanding, concern or help with children and housework, and lets his wife do all the work while he only becomes energetic after going to bed, then of course, it is impossible for the wife to actively participate in sex.

3. Improper contraceptive measures.

Some women do not take effective contraceptive measures after childbirth. When having sex, they are always worried about pregnancy. In addition, some couples take the method of interrupting sexual intercourse for contraception, interrupting sexual intercourse every time when the "sexual" interest is strong and the wife is close to orgasm, which may lead to sexual indifference over time.

4. Postpartum vaginal relaxation

After childbirth, the elastic fibers in the PC muscle are stretched or even ruptured, causing vaginal relaxation, which indirectly leads to vaginal dryness, frequent inflammation, vaginal flatulence and other female problems. Couples' sex is like a routine, and some cannot proceed or have to end it halfway because of vaginal dryness. If this continues for a long time, it will affect the relationship between the couple and cause sexual indifference.

Vagina tightening exercise makes you more perfect

1. Lying on the bed

Lie prone on the bed with your buttocks on the edge of the bed, straighten your legs in the air, and slowly lift them up. Hold on for 1 minute and then straighten them in the air, but don't touch the ground. Hold the edge of the bed with both hands to prevent falling off the bed. Repeat 6 times, once a day, to restore the tightness of the vagina.

2. Double-leg standing exercise

Stand against the wall, spread your legs slightly apart, contract your hip muscles on both sides, squeeze and lift your hips as high as possible. After exercise, you can improve the relaxation of the vagina and improve the vagina's contraction ability. Do it for 15 minutes every day.

3. Tightening the vagina while using the toilet

Every time you go to the toilet to urinate, contract your genitals to stop the urine from flowing out. After about ten seconds, urinate and contract again. You can slowly extend the time of holding urine. If you keep practicing for two months, you will see the effect.

4. Pelvic Exercises

Half squat, bend your knees slightly, place your feet about 60 cm apart, and put your hands on your hips. Inhale and push your pelvis forward; exhale and pull your pelvis back while sticking your buttocks out as far as possible. Repeat 10 times.

5. Supine massage

Lie on your back with your legs bent, knees apart, soles of feet facing each other, and massage from the knees to the base of the thighs, and then massage from bottom to top. Repeat 5 times.

6. Practice leg extension exercises

Sit with your hands behind you, bend your left leg, bend your right knee and extend it outward, and place it flat on the mat. Then lift your hips, extend your left leg outward, and slightly straighten it. Lower your hips again and do the same with your right leg. Repeat 5 times.

Of course, in addition to the above restorative exercises, postpartum mothers should also ensure a balanced diet, adequate sleep, and use some private care when necessary to better help private muscle recovery!