How to treat Buddhist students? More humor and more love

On the surface, "Buddhist students" are a clear stream, not fighting or competing. But after careful consideration, it is found that the so-called "Buddhism" has a hint of "sadness". Now, the editor of No. 5 website will show you how to treat Buddhist students? More humor and more love.

What does Buddhist mean?

What is Buddha-style? It refers to a life attitude that is fine with having or not having, not fighting or competing, and taking everything as fate dictates. After Buddha-style became popular, it quickly gave rise to the terms "Buddha-style youth", "Buddha-style star-chasing", "Buddha-style life" and so on. At the same time, a group of netizens quickly positioned themselves accurately and labeled themselves "Buddha-style students".

What are the characteristics of Buddhist students?

01 Still Water Classroom: Be quiet in class, don’t raise your hand to speak, don’t raise your hand to ask questions, and take notes carefully regardless of whether you understand or not. Be quiet and your heart is as still as water.

02 Review at random: When you are about to take an exam, open the textbook at random and take a look. If you remember it, it is fate. If what you remember happens to be tested on it, it is also a way of reviewing at random.

03 Zen Deskmate: When my deskmate failed the exam and cried loudly, I remained unmoved; when my deskmate made rapid progress in the exam and cried with joy, I remained unmoved. I just quietly did my homework and handed him a tissue, without any sadness or joy, and without any jealousy or hatred.

04 See through the scores: No matter the test scores are high or low, I am not moved. If the teacher scolds me, I learn from him. If the teacher praises me, I say thank you. There is no fluctuation in my heart, and I always have a smile on my face.

05 Concentrate on homework: Complete the homework assigned by the teacher on time, and copy the homework you don’t know on time. Never question the teacher and don’t do any exercises other than homework.

Mobile phone of Buddhist students

1. There are very few software and games in the mobile phones of Buddhist students. Basically, there are a few common software and a few word memorizing software.

2. The photos in the Buddhist students’ mobile phones are basically photos of architecture and food, and there are very few selfies.

3. The text messages of Buddhist students are basically verification codes or advertising text messages; the circle of friends of Buddhist students is basically forwarded tweets, a small part of which is text, there are generally very few pictures, and there are basically no selfies.

4. When Buddhist students look at their friends’ circles, they seldom comment. In their hearts, they have a kind of compassion that their friends’ circles represent all living beings and all living beings are fools, and then they just throw one out.

More Buddhist

Buddhist star-chasing refers to fans who have been deeply involved in the fan circle, tired of the quarrels, and finally hope to stay away from the disturbances and instead pursue a state of peace of mind.

Buddhist players: They take "playing games for fun" as their absolute principle, they don't play games overtime or spend money, they don't curse when their teammates let them down, they just smile when they receive equipment, and they remain calm even when they don't have good equipment.

Buddhist course selection: If you can choose it, it is fate; if you can’t choose it, it is destiny… (e.g., the poor sophomore editor didn’t choose C language, this is fate)

How to treat Buddhist students

1. Set clear learning goals

Learning goals are the starting point of learning and the final destination of learning. The clearer the goal is and the more it fits the child's actual situation, the more likely it is that every effort of the child's learning action will be successful. When children experience the joy and gain of learning in success, they will be more motivated to learn in the future and will not have an "indifferent" attitude. The goal does not need to be too big, it can be achieved step by step, or it can be divided into specific small goals to be completed. For example, the first step is to preview the text; the second step is to listen carefully to the class; the third step is to review after class; the fourth step is to read more extracurricular books to expand the knowledge. Every time a goal is achieved, the child will have more confidence. This small step of progress is the best effort for the big goal.

2. Learn to appreciate your child’s strengths and believe in his or her abilities

Many parents have high expectations for their children. Once their children fail to achieve their expected goals, they will constantly blame them. In the case of long-term lack of recognition, children will feel anxious and inferior, and finally respond to their parents with an indifferent attitude of "as long as you are happy". I remember reading an article called "Be a person who claps on the side of the road". There is a girl called "No. 23" in it. Because there are 60 people in the class, she ranks 23rd in every exam. Her parents feel helpless. The girl's grades are not outstanding and she has no outstanding talents. Every time she talks about her child with friends, she feels very embarrassed. However, when the whole class wrote the composition "The classmate you admire most", they all wrote the name of girl No. 23 by coincidence, because she is eager to help others, keeps her promises, is optimistic and humorous, etc. Parents do not generalize, understand and accept children who are not perfect, so as to help children's learning attitude and motivation change in a positive direction.

3. Manage your time well and get rid of your inner laziness

Many children are unable to focus on their learning tasks, or their learning efficiency is always extremely low, and they often do their homework until the middle of the night. The reason is that they do not know how to manage their time. A vague understanding of the concept of time will cause children to procrastinate and become more and more lazy in their studies. Changing "casual" to "not casual", caring about the efficient use of time, and working hard to improve learning efficiency is an important way to get rid of the "Buddhist student". A regular learning rhythm and an organized time arrangement let children know when to do what and when to do what they like, so that there are "little happiness" worth looking forward to every moment in life.

Parents can use the "Pomodoro Technique" to help their children improve their time management skills. The specific method is: set multiple Pomodoros for the tasks to be completed (each Pomodoro is set to 25 minutes), focus on the work during the Pomodoro, and do not interrupt for any irrelevant things until the Pomodoro rings, and then take a short break for 5 minutes. Take a 30-minute break after every 4 Pomodoros, and repeat this cycle. The Pomodoro Technique can effectively reduce children's time anxiety when studying, allowing children to focus on the tasks to be completed and have clearer thinking. The indifference of "Buddhist" children should arouse parents' sufficient vigilance. Not only should we avoid ways that may cause children to have an "indifferent" attitude, but we should also take positive "coping" measures after discovering the children's "indifferent" attitude.