What causes children to be introverted? What should I do if my child is introverted?

Parents are often very anxious when their children are introverted. In fact, the introverted personality of a baby will not affect the baby's healthy and happy growth. It is just necessary to prevent the child from being too introverted. When a child shows the characteristics of an introverted personality, how should parents guide the child correctly? Let's introduce

Causes of children's introverted personality

1. Genetic factors:

Studies have found that if a parent or close relative is introverted, then the child is very likely to be an introvert, so personality is also somewhat hereditary.

2. Imitation:

Many children become introverted by imitating the introverted personality of adults. Because children have a strong ability to imitate, if there is an introvert in a family member, the child will also become more introverted.

3. Only Child:

The implementation of family planning has led to the emergence of many only children, which means that they grow up without the company of their peers and their personalities become more introverted.

4. Suffering from psychological trauma:

Children are bound to encounter some mental stimulation and trauma on their path to growth. If they do not receive good care and guidance, the children will suffer psychological trauma and their personalities will tend to be more introverted.

5. Frightened during pregnancy:

Although the baby is in the belly, its senses have already developed to a certain extent. If the baby is frightened at this time, then after birth, the sense of security will be weak and the personality will be more introverted.

6. Overprotective parents:

Some parents tend to take care of everything for their children, which will deprive their children of many opportunities to interact with society and over time will lead to their children becoming introverted.

7. Language Delay:

Some children have weaker language skills compared to their peers, which makes it difficult for them to communicate with other children. Over time, they will become isolated from the group and become more introverted.

How is introversion formed?

(1) Due to self-sensitivity, students may develop "tentatiousness" or "phobia" towards people. For example, when some middle school students come into contact with the opposite sex, they are overly aware that the other person is of the opposite sex, which causes them to become overly nervous and put them in an embarrassing situation.

(2) Family background This is often the main factor causing introverted personality. The patient's parents are often relatively indifferent people. They firmly believe that if they want their children to be highly obedient, they must keep a certain distance from their children. A patient said: "When I was a child, my parents never encouraged me to be curious. They either sneered at my questions or told me to mind my own business and do my job well." Parents do not encourage their children to make friends or participate in any extracurricular activities. They believe that such activities will "distract" their children and make them lose interest in normal learning. Therefore, before entering society, the circle of life of teenagers is limited to school and home. Children who grow up in an environment lacking communication with others can be said to know nothing about general social skills. When he first entered society and did things, he accidentally offended some people. The disgust these people showed towards the patient made him dare not try to communicate with others from then on, and he completely retreated into his own personal world.

(3) Related to experience Personality is formed in the course of life and in the interaction between people and the environment. Specifically, people’s living environment refers to their family, school, work, etc. The process of the development of the relationship between people and the environment is experience, and experience is also a condition for the formation of personality.

What should introvert parents do?

1. Parents should try to make time to accompany their children.

When children come home from school, parents should take the initiative to contact them and let them talk about their life in kindergarten. Communicate with them more and understand their inner thoughts. When you are with your children, hug, touch and kiss them more often, so that the close physical contact can convey the message of love and make them feel more secure.

2. Encourage children to interact with their peers.

When interacting with their peers, children will become relaxed and unrestrained, and it is easy for them to form and maintain a good mood. Therefore, for introverted children, parents are advised to take their children to visit relatives and friends, or go to parks and children's playgrounds during holidays, let their children interact with children of the same age, guide and help their children to play with them in a friendly manner, and let their children experience the joy of interacting with others.

3. Encourage children to "go out".

For children who are more introverted, parents should encourage them to "go out" and create conditions for them to complete certain things independently, such as buying things, borrowing things from neighbors, etc. After a period of time, the child's personality will be more cheerful than before, and the child can be more bold to get in touch with things he is interested in, so that they will unconsciously enhance their self-confidence and shape a cheerful personality.