Is the personality of parents inherited? The influence of parents' personality on children

Parents are their children's earliest and best enlightenment teachers. So in the process of raising children, will the parents' personalities be passed on to their children? How much influence does the parents' personalities have on their children? Let me tell you how to raise a child with a good personality.

The influence of different personalities of parents on their children

Super rational parents

Rational parents not only manage their careers and lives in an orderly manner, but are also more modern in educating their children; such parents can not only face their own lives with a positive attitude, but also lead their children to face setbacks and difficulties. When it comes to educating children, they will educate their children in a way of encouragement and praise, rather than beating and scolding their children when they do something wrong. Children who grow up in such a sunny and warm environment will definitely be very positive and will grow up optimistically in the future.

Parents with strong expectations

Such parents are usually very serious and full of love for their children. They will fully demonstrate their love for their children. Therefore, such parents always imagine what kind of wonderful life their children will live in the future, and their requirements for their children are relatively strict. They are simply "worried to death" for their children. In fact, such an education method will make their children never grow up. Parents do too much for their children, which hinders their children's ability to grow independently. Such parents should let go when it is time to let go. Children will always grow up, and we will always grow old.

Very selfish parents

Such parents are relatively strict with themselves. They will try their best to play every role, including children, lovers, mothers (fathers), and employees, and hope to perform each role to perfection. Therefore, they hope that everything related to themselves can be under their control. However, children are not as disciplined as their parents after all, and they will cause trouble from time to time. Therefore, more self-centered parents must control their emotions, be more tolerant and patient with their children, and let them grow freely.

Very emotional parents

Compared to rational parents, emotional parents tend to be more nagging, soft-hearted, and can be called spoiling their children. They always want to educate their children in their own way, or give their children all the love they think is right. Children who grow up in such an environment will find their parents annoying, or they don’t have the courage to complete a task independently. So emotional parents should stop nagging. Children need some ups and downs in their growth, and they should let go and let them go and grow on their own.

Strong parents

Many parents have such a concept: I am your elder, you should listen to me. They are very strong in educating their children, and they have the final say over their children, setting various standards and rules for their children. They hope to raise a polite and sensible child through their strict education. However, children educated in this way are not only likely to become indifferent, but also affect the parent-child relationship between parents and children, because children will be afraid of their parents, and they will be spiritually distant. Parents should not be too strict when educating their children, listen to their children's ideas more, and create more opportunities to get close to their children, so that children can grow up spiritually healthy.

The way of education determines the degree of children's self-confidence. We all hope that children will be confident in themselves, so that everything can be solved easily. However, whether a child is confident is closely related to the way parents educate their children. If the family atmosphere is a democratic family, each family member respects each other and has a say. Such children are very confident about their position in the family and society, and can focus on their overall quality development. On the contrary, if, as mentioned above, the parents are more authoritarian, the children have no say, and must obey their parents. Such children will lack self-confidence very much, and will be timid and submissive in doing things. In families that are particularly doting on their children, parents think that everything their children do is right, so the children will be blindly confident and think that everything they do is right, but because they have been raised by their parents with credit since childhood, they lack practice, so once they do something, they don't know how to do it. Such children are actually overconfident and conceited.

Parents' words and deeds can easily lead to children's inferiority complex. Every parent wants their children to be successful and has deep expectations for their children, but after all, children are still young and cannot grow up completely according to their parents' ideas. So some parents will scold their children for being stupid or foolish, or compare their children with other children and do not know how to appreciate their own children, which will cause children to have excessive inferiority complex and think that they are the stupid children in their mother's mouth. Over time, they will really become "stupid"!

Do parents determine their children's personalities?

Temperament formed by genetic factors, according to its own activity mode, makes personality have unique colors (the relationship between personality and genetics). For example, the same personality trait of helping others, sanguine people are quick and enthusiastic when helping others, while phlegmatic people are calm and calm, and their emotions are contained in their hearts. Temperament is determined by the type of higher nervous activity of a person, so temperament affects the speed of personality formation and development from the beginning.

The influence of genetic factors on intelligence has long been proven by Jensen's research. Regardless of whether children are raised by their biological parents or by adopted or foster families, there is always a significant correlation between their IQ and that of their biological parents. Jensen attributed this to the influence of genetics on intelligence. In other words, both intelligence and personality are affected by the characteristics and types of higher nervous activity, and intelligence plays a role in the formation of human personality.

This effect is shown in the process of human development. People use their intelligence, master the corresponding knowledge and skills, calmly judge the situation, and make their behavior conform to objective laws. This will encourage them to overcome difficulties and show good character traits such as self-awareness, boldness, decisiveness and perseverance in the face of difficulties and obstacles. Therefore, politicians, inventors, writers, and artists, although they are engaged in different professions, all have highly developed intelligence, creativity and excellent character traits.

Personality is not only influenced by genetic factors, but more importantly, the environment is a decisive factor in the development of personality. The role of the environment is mainly exerted through family, school, social activity circle and work practice.

How to cultivate good character in children

To cultivate children's good character from an early age, parents must first set an example, and infect and influence their children with their own good personality and sentiments. As for their own bad character, they must be good at controlling and correcting it, and never let their children be infected by their bad temper and bad habits. If some parents lose their temper or even quarrel at every turn, then the child's character will become impatient and irritable. If parents often appear timid and cowardly in the face of difficulties, then it is not easy for children to form a strong character. After investigation, some psychological workers also found that parents' different attitudes and educational methods towards their children will directly affect the children's personality characteristics and psychological quality. For example, parents take excessive care and protection for their children, and do not let go to let their children do independent activities. Most children's personalities are negative, dependent, lack independence and endurance, are not adapted to collective life, are timid and indecisive when encountering things. Parents lack care for their children, are cold to their children, and ignore them. The child's personality will become cold, lack enthusiasm, and even form a depressed and eccentric personality. When parents are too accommodating and overly indulgent to their children, their children will be proud, unbridled, willful, lazy, and sometimes selfish and indifferent to others. When parents are too strict with their children, their children will generally lack self-esteem and have abnormal personalities, and may even develop hypocritical personalities that say one thing in front of others and another behind their backs. When parents adopt a strict but democratic attitude towards their children, their children will be enthusiastic, straightforward, lively, independent, bold, confident, and will not succumb to authority but will respect others.

It can be seen that the family environment is the melting pot that cultivates children's personality traits. Good personality traits depend on the influence and cultivation of parents.

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