What should I do if my child doesn't like to play with other children? How can parents guide isolated children?

People have different personalities, and their personalities are affected from an early age. Isolated children are not easy to interact with, so they are always alone. In fact, they are very lonely inside, and their thinking is preemptive. Since you have discovered my faults, I will exclude you from my heart to avoid getting hurt.

In fact, in peer relationships, these children seem to be the ones who bring frustration to others. They will not be excluded from the group, but will wander on the edge of the group. Their unique self-esteem often hurts others unintentionally. There are rarely conflicts, but they also have no close friends. Behind narcissism is actually the inferiority complex that perfectionism cannot achieve. The inner world of isolated children is very lonely. Parents overprotect their children's shortcomings while encouraging them in family education, which leads to the children's inability to accept their own imperfections and hiding their true selves.

In the eyes of children, the denial and criticism of others are unforgivable mistakes, whether they treat themselves or others. Because they are afraid that others will discover their imperfections, they can only stay on the edge of the group to protect themselves. The overly sensitive self-defense mechanism often blocks the development of children's peer relationships. In the cognition of isolated children, imperfection means not being accepted. They believe that they will face the situation of being abandoned by friends because of their imperfections, so they will abandon and exclude their partners before their partners to protect themselves from being harmed.

How to guide parents of isolated children

How should parents guide children with isolated peer relationships?

1. Appropriate praise: When parents praise their children, they should guide them to correctly evaluate themselves and accept their own imperfections. Excessive praise is the same as no praise, which will have a negative impact on the cultivation of children's self-confidence. The family education method of excessive praise will make it difficult for children to adapt to the social environment well.

2. Face up to children's shortcomings: Children are very malleable during their growth. Do not let overprotection limit their self-growth. Correctly recognizing their own shortcomings and deficiencies is an ability that every child must learn during their growth. When children miss their growth and development period and encounter difficulties that their parents cannot protect or help them avoid, they will inevitably face failure. If they do not have a good ability to resist frustration, they will not be able to accept their own imperfections. The huge psychological conflict will drag down the psychological construction of children and lead to a series of psychological problems.

3. Accept the imperfections of children: Parents are the strongest support for their children. Family acceptance is extremely important for children. Parents are the first role models for their children. If you want your children to accept themselves, parents should first accept their children's shortcomings.

4. Create opportunities for making friends: Take your children to more social activities, organize gatherings of several families, and first establish trusting friendships with the help of their parents, and then gradually transition to making friends independently. During this process, parents must be careful not to interfere too much in conflicts between children, so that children can realize that conflicts between friends are inevitable, and they can still be good friends after a quarrel by tolerating each other. Perfect friendship is impossible.

Behind the isolation-type child's arrogance is a lonely child who needs correct guidance to break the arrogance and become truly strong.