What should I do if my child is introverted? What are some books on cultivating children's personality?

In the process of children's growth, their introverted personality needs to attract parents' attention. How to guide children to grow up healthily, you can do this.

How to deal with introverted children

Children with introverted personalities generally do not express their thoughts and wishes directly, and do not attract much attention. This requires us to carefully observe the child's behavior, try to understand the child's true psychology, and then prescribe the right medicine and guide him: first, we must discover the child's strengths, affirm his little progress, often praise him in front of the group, and help him build self-confidence; secondly, we must give him more love and care in life, let him feel the warmth of the group, and like this group.

Introverted children are more relaxed in familiar places. I think this is not only related to emotions, but also to experience. With rich experience, they know how to deal with various problems, and their initiative and self-confidence are enhanced, and their enthusiasm for communication is also improved. Therefore, the most important thing is to let children participate in more group activities, provide them with various opportunities to express themselves, and let them get exercise from them. Of course, the emphasis is on participation, and less on results.

Character cultivation is a long-term process and cannot be achieved overnight. As the famous saying goes: sow behavior, reap habits; sow habits, reap character. Character is formed bit by bit in life practice, and the shaping of a good character also starts with specific behaviors and basic habits.

What to do if your child is introverted

My child is very introverted, doesn't like to talk, and doesn't like to get along with children of the same age. What should I do?

1. Parents should try to take time to accompany their children.

When children come home from school, parents should take the initiative to contact them and let them talk about their life in kindergarten. Communicate with them more and understand their inner thoughts. When you are with your children, hug, touch and kiss them more often, so that the close physical contact can convey the message of love and make them feel more secure.

2. Encourage children to interact with their peers.

When interacting with their peers, children will become relaxed and unrestrained, and it is easy for them to form and maintain a good mood. Therefore, for introverted children, parents are advised to take their children to visit relatives and friends, or go to parks and children's playgrounds during holidays, let their children interact with children of the same age, guide and help their children to play with them in a friendly manner, and let their children experience the joy of interacting with others.

3. Encourage children to "go out".

For children who are more introverted, parents should encourage them to "go out" and create conditions for them to complete certain things independently, such as buying things, borrowing things from neighbors, etc. After a period of time, the child's personality will be more cheerful than before, and the child can be more bold to get in touch with things he is interested in, so that they will unconsciously enhance their self-confidence and shape a cheerful personality.

Guide children to grow up healthily

On the surface, this is a problem of the child, but in reality it is closely related to the parenting style of the parents. To improve the introverted personality of a child, the key lies in the parenting style of the parents or adults to be suitable for the healthy development of the child's body and mind. The following points can be used as a reference:

1. Insist on sending your child to kindergarten. This will allow your child to enter a children's world and learn to interact with peers in collective life. He will learn new knowledge that he did not understand before and enjoy the fun of being with his peers.

2. Choose one or two friends who are cheerful, healthy and slightly younger than your child to play with. This can not only cultivate your child's self-confidence but also help each other.

3. Let your children play freely. Some parents are concerned about their children's cleanliness, hygiene, safety, etc., so they always restrict their children from doing this or that. This will restrict the development of their personality. Children should be encouraged to play with sand and mud, step on rainwater, climb piles of stones and sand, etc. In fact, they only need to wear suitable clothes and pay attention to safety to play as much as they want. Such unfettered free play will make children's personality more cheerful.

4. Share the joy with your children, such as telling them jokes and humorous stories, joking with each other, participating in their games, taking them out to play, etc.

5. Be patient with your child and don’t make too high demands on him. Parents should also try to control their emotions and not react too strongly to the child’s shrinking behavior, such as not daring to slide down the slide, jump on the trampoline, or speak loudly.

6. Give your child positive psychological hints, and do not use language such as "Did your classmates bully you?" or "Did the teacher criticize you today?" to avoid putting your child in a weak or passive position psychologically.

7. Create conditions and encourage children to participate in more activities, such as playing chess, playing the piano, literacy, calculation, traveling, etc.

Children are very malleable. As long as we adults can actively guide them, they will grow up healthily.