What procedures are required to have a second child? What procedures are required to have a second child?

Since the two-child policy was relaxed, many families have joined the ranks of having a second child. Today, I will introduce to you what procedures are required to have a second child? What procedures are required to have a second child?

What procedures are required to have a second child?

The specific materials to be submitted before having a second child include the following:

1. Certification of the birth of children by the parents of the only child (issued by both parties’ units or village committee);

2. The applicant's household registration booklet;

3. Marriage Certificate;

4. The original of the child-bearing certificate (issued by both parties’ units or village committees), and keep a copy;

5. If the parents originally had two children, they must provide a valid certificate of death of the other child issued by the relevant department;

6. If other children die after reaching the legal age of marriage, the village committee should issue a certificate that they have no children to give birth to or adopt.

Special circumstances: If a single couple has obtained the "Honorary Certificate for Parents of an Only Child" and meets the requirements to apply for a second child, their "Honorary Certificate for Parents of an Only Child" will be cancelled and they will stop enjoying the preferential treatment for parents of an only child from the month after the approval of the second child. The preferential treatment for parents of an only child that they have already enjoyed will not be recovered.

Things to note when having a second child

Pay attention to the policy and your actual situation. Sometimes, don't blindly think that you can have a second child. It's best to study the policy of second child carefully to see which of you and your partner meets such conditions. Don't believe everything you hear. Sometimes the policy may not be suitable for every couple.

Consider your own mental state and financial ability. For families who need a second child, it is best to carefully consider the actual situation of your family. For example, do you have enough mental and physical ability to raise a second child? Do you have enough experience and ability to afford the expenses of a second child? How to solve the educational problems between the two children?

Consider your age. For families who want a second child, you should also consider your own age. For example, are you still at the right childbearing age or have you exceeded the appropriate childbearing age? Only in this way can you be sure of safety and prepare for the second child.

You must plan for a second child based on your physical condition. Some people want a second child, but they also need to take a good look at their physical condition. When preparing for a second child, it is best to go to the hospital for relevant examinations. Of course, if you have a history of illness, it is recommended that you do not have a second child.

Consider the timing of having a second child. The timing of having a second child does not start immediately after your first child. Instead, it needs to be started after your body recovers. In other words, it is best to consider the time difference between the second child and the first child. Generally speaking, it is recommended to have a second child within a three to five year age gap. In this way, you don't have to worry about the first child, and you have the second child.

Emotional issues of the first child. Families who want a second child should also consider the feelings of the first child. For this little one, you should be prepared to welcome his brothers and sisters. Naturally, you should also consider his thoughts before getting pregnant, whether he wants brothers and sisters or not. If there are brothers and sisters, how to deal with the competition between the two, etc.

Before having a second child, the physical examination should be more detailed than the first one, including the woman and of course the man. In particular, the man's sperm quality must be carefully checked to prove whether it is necessary to have a second child. Some men's sperm quality will have problems over time. Examination is necessary.

Education plan. The way to raise and educate two children and one child in the future is different. So if you want a second child, you have to think about this aspect in advance. The education of children is a big issue. If you have enough confidence to raise two children, then you can have them. There is no problem. If you don't have confidence, it is better not to have them.

How to comfort the first child after having a second child

First, let the older child participate in the mother's entire pregnancy

When I got pregnant with Xiaobao unexpectedly, I often talked to Gege about the baby in her belly. I would tell Gege that Xiaobao lived in her belly and she needed our love and care. When Gege ate, I would ask her to give some food to Xiaobao in her belly. Every time I sorted Gege's clothes, I would always say to her: "This dress is too small, save it for Xiaobao." "You can't wear these shoes, give them to Xiaobao!" For some simple picture books, she would also say: "Mom, this is a book I read when I was a child, leave it for Xiaobao." Once, when I went to a pregnancy check-up, I took Gege with me so that she could personally experience the process of her mother's pregnancy. I once said to Gege: "I don't know whether Mom can give birth to this baby smoothly. Because Mom's health is not very good now, it is possible that the baby will die in Mom's belly." Although I don't want to talk about death, I still want to let the child understand that the fetus will still face the risk of death in the mother's belly. As a result, I found that when I said this, Gege could actually understand better that Mom needs to cherish the little baby in her belly.

These made Gege's love for the baby in my belly gradually internalized into her own feelings. She gave the unborn baby many nice nicknames such as "Little Ear" and "Little Watermelon". Every night, Gege would lie on my belly to listen to the baby's movements. Gege would always say, "Mom, my little sister is crying in my belly." I said, "Why?" Gege said, "She is crying and wants to come out to play with her sister!" I always enjoyed watching Gege with a happy face.

Second, let the child feel that the love of parents will not change because of the birth of the second baby

After I got pregnant with Xiaobao, Gege and I had more emotional communication. Every night, I would tell her, "No matter how many children I have, I will always be my mother's baby." I also gave her a shot of prevention in advance: "If someone tells you that my mother will not love you anymore after Xiaobao, you can tell them confidently that no, my mother will always love me!" Later, one day, Gege said to me unhappily that an old lady downstairs said that my mother would not love me if she gave birth to a younger brother! I was very fortunate that Gege would tell me such things in time. I immediately told her, "The old lady is teasing you, you don't have to pay attention to what she says. Whether my mother gives birth to a younger brother or a younger sister, it will be the same for you. You and Xiaobao are both my babies." Gege was immediately relieved. Later, I saw Gege say to such words, "You are lying, my mother will always love me." The person who teased the child naturally retreated tactfully.

Third, consolidate the eldest child's position in the family, forever the only one

Since I read the theory of birth order in advance, I was very clear about a principle: consolidate the eldest daughter's position in the family; before and after the birth of the little one, the better resources in the family and the resources she had already enjoyed should still be left to the eldest one. For example, during pregnancy, I insisted on accompanying Gege until she fell asleep, insisted on telling her stories and taking care of her life; I insisted on personally picking up Gege to school until I was hospitalized; after the little one was born, I let Gege sleep in the original room with her father. The little one and I lived in the original study room. I asked my mother, who had taken care of Gege when she was a child, to continue to take care of her during my hospitalization, while the nanny and mother-in-law took care of me and the little one. During the confinement period, I allowed Gege to live in the same room with me, provided that she did not affect her mother's rest, so as to try to ensure Gege's lifestyle and ensure that she would always be the only one in the family.

I later learned that the main reason why the mother's eldest daughter hated the youngest daughter was that after her younger sister was born, she was sent to her grandparents' home in the same neighborhood to sleep after dinner every day. This not only changed the children's lifestyle, but more importantly, it made the eldest daughter feel that "because of her younger sister's arrival, she was expelled from home and could not return home." Therefore, hatred arose spontaneously.

Fourth, let the older child understand what the birth of the younger child means in advance

Many mothers will tell their first child, "Mom will give birth to a younger brother or sister to play with you." As a result, the child's expectation of the younger brother or sister becomes a playmate. They don't know what kind of changes the birth of the younger brother or sister will bring to their lives. Therefore, we must let the first child understand in advance what substantial changes will happen to her life after the birth of the younger child.

I clearly remember that before Xiaobao was born, I had several conversations with Gege: "After your sister is born, will you love her?" Gege said: "I will."

Although Gege is looking forward to Xiaobao's arrival, and her acceptance of Xiaobao is pleasing, I don't completely "believe" that Gege can do it. After all, a child is a child. Before Xiaobao really comes, she doesn't know what will happen when she gets along with Xiaobao. What she expects are all good things, and she can't predict the possible conflicts and losses. Therefore, it is a long-term battle to build up Dabao's mentality. We must gradually infiltrate Dabao in daily life to let Dabao understand that after Xiaobao is really born, being Dabao requires sacrifice.

Fifth, let the first child experience the benefits of having a second child

Although the birth of Xiaobao will have a certain impact on Dabao's life. Xiaobao will compete for parents' energy, family resources, etc. However, Xiaobao will also bring benefits to Dabao, and we also need to let Dabao understand in advance. For example, Dabao will get Xiaobao's love, and Xiaobao will also care for her when she grows up, which is something that a single-child family does not have; Xiaobao will play with Dabao when she grows up, and they can play wherever they go, unlike other children who need to make an appointment in advance to play with them; Dabao can share Xiaobao's items, for example, I will ask a very good friend to prepare a gift for Dabao when giving Xiaobao's birth; I will also decide for Xiaobao to transfer some of the gifts she received when she was born to Dabao; Dabao can act as Xiaobao's teacher, and will feel a sense of accomplishment; Dabao will get some extra items because of Xiaobao; for example, in our family, because Xiaobao is coming, we bought a bunk bed. The reason is: because there are two children, there must be a bunk bed. If there is no Xiaobao, bunk beds don't have to be bought.