What should I do if my baby doesn't get along with others in kindergarten and always plays alone?

Babies will be happy when they play with other children in kindergarten. Mothers need to teach their babies to make friends and not to play alone or leave the group. So what is the reason for babies not being sociable? What should we do if babies are not sociable? What are the ways to correct babies who are not sociable? The following editor will introduce you in detail.

Reasons why babies are not sociable

The caregiver is lonely and the child lacks contact with friends

Some children are not only timid and withdrawn in kindergarten, but also in all other occasions. This is directly related to their parents' poor communication skills and their lack of contact with the outside world. Some mothers are unwilling to interact with other mothers who are holding their babies in the sun when their children are still infants. If the children are taken care of by the elderly, they are more likely to be solitary, because some elderly people have local accents, and even if they are eager to interact with others, they cannot communicate well, or they cannot find elderly people who can speak the same language to take care of the children. Because children lack contact with their peers since childhood, they will behave timidly and unsociable in kindergarten.

Being overly child-centered can easily reduce children's self-confidence in a group

The child is spoiled at home and is the "little sun" of the whole family. However, when he goes to kindergarten, he becomes one of many "little stars" and his attention is reduced. This makes the child very uncomfortable. When he is at home, his parents' praise is endless, but when he goes to kindergarten, he is no longer outstanding, and even feels that he is not as good as his peers in many aspects, so he loses his self-confidence. This kind of children are very active at home, but they are silent in kindergarten. If the mother finds this situation, she should cooperate with the kindergarten teacher to let the teacher discover and use the child's strengths and praise him more. When the child's self-confidence is improved, he can get along well with his friends. At the same time, we must remember that the praise for children should not be excessive. An important principle is: only praise the child's efforts, not his innate talents.

The child develops the habit of being the first in everything at home and is rejected by his friends

It is also because of spoiling that parents always put their children first in everything at home. Children cry and make a fuss at any time, and lose their temper when their desires are not met. Over time, children also retain this habit when they go to kindergarten. They are unwilling to suffer when getting along with their friends, and they cry and hit others at any time. In the end, they will be rejected by other children and become lonely. From this situation, we can see how important it is to let children live in an equal and democratic family. Spoiling children will eventually harm them.

What to do if your baby is not sociable

Build partnerships from one to many

For shy and timid children, even if their mothers encourage them to participate in group activities, it is probably difficult to achieve good results. For such children, they should start with one-on-one communication, which not only makes them feel safe, but also makes it easier to negotiate and solve problems. If they are with many children at once, it requires not only courage but also guts, which will make children feel insecure. When picking up and dropping off their children to kindergarten, mothers can take the initiative to talk to the children and parents in their children's class, so that the children feel that their mothers are also in their circle of life and shorten the psychological distance between the children and other children. At the same time, mothers should pay attention to finding those lively and cheerful children, and try to create opportunities for the children to play with this child. They can go home together or make an appointment to go to the park or playground together on weekends. In this way, the children will gradually have their own friends and will no longer feel lonely in kindergarten.

Invite children to play at home

Even if a child is withdrawn, he or she still has the desire to interact with others and the desire to be liked and accepted by others. However, if a child is not good at expressing himself or dare not express himself or herself, then the mother can take the opportunity to strengthen the child's intimacy with other children. For example, when playing together in the community, you can encourage your child to invite other children to play at home. Many children have this curiosity. If the other party's parents do not object, they will generally accept the invitation. Or, on the child's birthday, discuss with the child to invite a friend he or she considers to be a good friend to visit the house. The child feels familiar and relaxed in his or her own home, so he or she will have a sense of initiative and will be more likely to integrate with his or her friends. Of course, this requires the guidance and assistance of the mother.

Reinforce your child to accept the “invitation”

Generally, after inviting others to your home, other children will also make such invitations. At this time, the mother must promptly encourage the child to accept the invitation and "return visit" other children. At this time, the mother must also praise the child a lot, let him feel his status in the social circle of children, and be generous in praising the child's polite behavior at other children's homes in order to reinforce good behavior.

The mutual motivation between children is very great. When children learn to enjoy making friends, they will gradually integrate into the kindergarten circle.

How to correct a child's lack of sociability

Step-by-step reinforcement. When the child goes from ignoring the invitation of other children to occasionally responding, even if it is just refusing to participate, you should pay attention to it. When the child expresses the desire to participate, you should encourage him/her in time. When the child goes from being invited to actively asking to participate in other children's activities, you should reinforce it. This can encourage the child to move towards his/her ideal goal step by step.

Reinforce the behavior of the "inviter". As far as social interaction skills are concerned, it is a natural process. If there is a proper social environment, social interaction will occur. Children who have already formed unsociable behavior need social training even more. Therefore, you should warmly welcome children who come to your door on their own initiative, provide them with a playground and toys, and encourage your children to play with them.

If your child has been taken care of by family members, then you'd better send him to kindergarten. This is an ideal environment for socialization. In addition, you should take your child to places where there are many children to ensure that your child has certain opportunities to interact with others.

According to your child's specific situation, teach him the social interaction knowledge and skills he lacks.