What to do if you don’t have patience when educating your children? Effective ways to educate your children

Nowadays, children are more willful because they are the only baby in the family and are spoiled by their parents. So they become more and more willful. What should we do if gentle education of children is no longer effective? Educating children requires methods. Only by mastering the correct methods can we grow happily together with our children.

【Effective methods of gentle parenting】

Compared with the tiger mom style strict discipline through high pressure control in the past, gentle parenting seems to have gradually become the preferred trend of parenting. The so-called gentle parenting emphasizes:

1. Don’t use corporal punishment, beating or scolding to discipline your children

Let children understand the cause of the problem and learn self-discipline, rather than passively obeying because of fear of intimidation from their parents.

2. Respect children’s choices

Understand the individual differences of children and develop them appropriately, rather than forcing parents to instill their own expectations.

3. Empathize and accept your child’s emotions

Accept your child’s limitations and be tolerant of them, so that your child can also be aware of his or her own emotional reactions and learn better emotional management.

4. Positive and affirmative language

By replacing punishment with encouragement, we can not only change negative behaviors, but also strengthen children's positive behaviors.

Gentle upbringing is important

So-called gentle parenting does not mean that parents always have a kind and gentle face: they do not conflict with their children, give in when their children cry, and do not discipline their children. It is a pity that such parents are "gentle but not parenting".

Some parents, when their children’s toys are snatched away and they cry loudly, still say in a gentle tone: "It's your turn next. I've already told your brother. Don't cry. There's nothing to cry about." But from beginning to end, they never try to empathize with the child or communicate with the brother. They just want to calm the child down in a calm tone. Or as soon as the child cries, they rush to comfort the child and say: "Okay, okay, you can play with it first, but you can't next time!" The child is unable to learn the rules they should have, and after a long time, he will find that the parents' gentleness is just perfunctory, and the parents will feel frustrated that no matter how gently they comfort the child, it has no effect.

Parents' words and actions must be consistent, and they must also examine whether their expectations and demands of their children are reasonable. The greatest learning for children in the process of gentle upbringing does not come from what their parents say gently, but from their parents' "gentle, firm but consistent" attitude, so that they know what kind of behavior is appropriate, not out of fear of being punished by their parents, or to please or deal with their parents.