How to strengthen the education of children who are impetuous and impatient? How to do psychological education for children?

The issue of children's education has always been a difficult problem in the minds of parents. Today, let's talk about how to educate children. If the child is impatient, how should parents deal with this situation? How to correctly guide the baby to avoid such problems.

Causes of baby's psychological restlessness

1. The influence of social and cultural environment. In a highly efficient society, there are always best-selling books, rankings, novel titles, bizarre plots, and exaggerated forms, which dazzles children with low resistance. Under the stimulation of this entertainment and sensory environment, there is a trend of paying attention to the surface instead of the inner. They pursue speed and shortcuts to solve problems, and their understanding of knowledge becomes superficial, and they are not willing to study knowledge in depth.

2. Family influence. The pressure of fierce competition makes parents have too high expectations. Pressure and competition also directly affect children's impetuous personality. Competition prompts them to expect to quickly improve their academic performance, and their misunderstanding of learning results leads to counterproductive results.

3. Some children lack perseverance. When they encounter difficulties, they try to escape by doing things hastily, or even comfort themselves that they have already learned it. This is also a manifestation of weak will and fear of hardship and fatigue. It is often because children are too spoiled at home and they are unwilling to invest too much energy and "waste" their brain cells.

4. Children may be impatient and impulsive when doing other things, so they may be impatient and unsteady in their studies.

What to do if your child is impatient

1. Parents themselves need to reflect.

I asked him, "Do you have patience?" He said, "To be honest, I don't either. Usually, the children are taken care of by the elderly, and I rarely take care of them." I knew he would say that, because the various behaviors of children can be found in the parents, but we often only blame the children and don't reflect on ourselves. In fact, I am also an impatient person. Sometimes when my son can't do dictation of new words, I will be very anxious to scold him, and then my son will say, "Look, you said I have no patience, but in fact you have even less patience." Yes, parents should set an example for their children. I am so impatient myself, how can I say that to him? Think about it, isn't it?

2. Start with the child’s interests.

I asked him, "What does your son like?" He said, "He likes cars?" I said that's great, so let's start with cars, buy car models, King Kong cars, and assembly toy cars, let him play by himself, as long as he is interested in something, he will always have patience to play, at the same time, pay attention to observe the child's interests in other aspects, and let him play in this way, slowly cultivate his patience. My son can assemble quietly in the room for half a day by himself, which shows that he likes it, so he plays very patiently. However, if I ask him to go shopping with me, he will be impatient after a while, because he is not interested at all. It can be seen from this that whether a child has patience is only relative, he is not impatient with everything, and parents should find more interests that can make him patient. Some people say, "My child is patient when watching TV and playing games, but not patient in other aspects." Patience in this aspect definitely does not need to be cultivated, and it cannot be cultivated. Parents should spend more time with their children, communicate and interact with them more, understand their inner world, and guide them to establish positive and healthy interests and hobbies.

3. Parents should give more encouragement and guidance, but not too much involvement.

A friend said that her daughter always paints with her. If the friend doesn't paint, her daughter won't paint either. Moreover, if she is not satisfied with the final painting, she will blame her mother. If others praise her for her good painting, she will pout because she knows that part is actually drawn by her mother, not by herself. Look! The harm of excessive participation is obvious: dependence, complaints, unhappiness, and lack of sense of accomplishment. We should help children find their interests, encourage and guide them to play to their heart's content, find happiness and sense of accomplishment from it, and share happiness with them. Every time my son finishes assembling a work and shows it to me, I am always surprised and appreciate it carefully, and ask him to tell me his ideas when assembling the work, because I can't understand what he is assembling at all. I often encourage him not to assemble according to the drawings, but to assemble freely according to his own ideas. I think if there are many conditions and restrictions attached to something that is originally very interesting, the interest itself will be greatly reduced.

Methods of educating children

(1) Exchange method: Let other children play the role of the willful child, and let the willful child play the role of the parent or other people. Through this role-playing experience, the willful child will realize that willfulness is an unwelcome personality.

(2) Diversion method: When a child is being willful, take advantage of the situation and try to divert the child’s attention to other novel things that can attract the child.

(3) Indulge method: When a child behaves willfully, such as crying or throwing tantrums, parents should ignore him as long as safety is guaranteed. When he feels that crying or throwing tantrums are no longer effective, he will naturally stop crying. At this time, if you can reason with him, you will get a better educational effect.

(4) Reasoning method: When children make unreasonable demands, parents can give vivid examples to explain to children the possible consequences of willful behavior so that children can learn from it.

(5) Guidance method: Parents can find the "bright spots" in willful children and guide them. This can not only protect the child's self-esteem, but also transform the willful shortcomings into positive psychological factors.

(6) Provocation: When children cannot control their emotions, parents can deliberately use provocation to encourage children to restrain their willful behavior in a competitive state of mind.

(7) Prevention: When a situation that may induce a child to behave in a wayward manner is approaching, parents can make demands on their children in advance and set three rules.

(8) Delegation: Children like to help adults do things. When children behave in a willful manner, parents can entrust them to complete a task that is within their ability and interesting. This can help children get rid of their willful emotions and prevent them from getting into a "head-on" situation. It can also make children feel trusted and satisfied.

(9) Praise method. In view of the psychological characteristics of children who like to hear nice words and compliments, use the child’s past good behavior or words that the child likes to hear to make a relatively reasonable explanation for the child’s willful behavior, so that the child can “go down the ladder.” These methods can sometimes mobilize the child’s self-esteem, sympathy, and ambition, thereby controlling the child’s willful behavior.