What are the advantages and disadvantages of leaving your child with your grandparents?

Under the pressure of life and work, parents hand over the responsibility of their children's life growth and education to their grandparents, thus promoting the so-called grandparenting. So what are the advantages and disadvantages of grandparenting?

The benefits of grandparenting

Wisdom from other generations: The elders of the previous generation, because of their delicate minds and rich growth experience, can be trusted by parents and therefore can take care of their children more completely and properly in daily life.

Elderly people’s relaxed mentality: Compared with parents who are under work pressure, elders in the family are much more stable and calm in mood and mentality. They will also be more energetic, patient and loving to accompany and nurture the next generation of children.

The mentality of passing down from generation to generation: It is extremely easy for the elderly to establish a close relationship with their grandchildren, which can create a good emotional foundation for educating the children. In addition, the elderly will be more compassionate to the children in the family because of the idea that their grandchildren are of the same bloodline as themselves and that they should love their grandchildren as well.

Disadvantages of grandparents

Excessive pampering: If the elders in the family pamper the children too much, it will easily lead to bad situations such as children being willful, highly dependent and having poor self-care ability.

Difficult to change and conservative: Different generations will inevitably have more conservative and old-fashioned ideas, which may have an adverse effect on the development of children's ability to enter society and adapt to groups in the future.

Too much interference from elders: When parents make strict demands on their children, the elders in the family often intervene, making it impossible for parents to correct their children’s mistakes and shortcomings immediately.

Optimizing grandparenting model

Harmonious family relationships: Children can only truly feel the warmth of family affection when they are loved by their elders and educated by a strict father and a kind mother. For modern children, harmonious family relationships are the best nourishment for growth.

Both parties agree on three rules: There are many things and issues that parents can communicate with the elders in the family in advance, for example: what things the elderly cannot indulge in, where the elderly should be pampered, when should children be allowed to spend more time with their parents, etc., so as to avoid disputes.

Proper time allocation: Elders cannot take care of too much of the children’s daily life and life. If the children become seriously dependent on them, it will have a negative impact on their growth.