3 ways your baby likes you, moms should know

The first is that he often talks to you and asks you all kinds of questions. He will ask you questions that he doesn't know if he trusts you. The second is that he always wants you to hug him. Hugging is a way to get love and protection. The third is that he always wants to stay with you. He feels happy when he is with you, which is a sign of love.

Baby likes you

The first type, often talking to you and asking you various questions

Have you ever had this experience? After school, your child comes home and keeps asking you all kinds of questions, or telling you about some interesting things that happened at school, and wants to share everything he encountered with you. When you face this kind of "enthusiasm" of your child, how do you respond to him? Join him in the discussion? Or respond coldly? In fact, this behavior of your child is a manifestation of your love for you. If he enthusiastically tells you everything that happened around him, but you respond coldly to him, it may hurt his heart.

The second type always wants you to hug him

This kind of "show of love" behavior should be understandable to most mothers. Some older boys may be too embarrassed to let you hug them because they are too proud. But children who are in kindergarten or just starting elementary school will not care about this. When they come home, they always want you to hug them, or they take the initiative to hug you. In fact, this behavior is a manifestation of love for you. Mothers should remember to respond, don't be silly and refuse.

The third type: I always want to be with you

In addition to babies being clingy during infancy, some children are also clingy after going to kindergarten. Although they won't always let you hold them, no matter what you do, they always want to be with you and accompany you. They feel more at ease with you by their side. This behavior is also a way for them to "show their love". Mothers should never dislike them. If you are busy, try to spend more time with them.

How to make your children like you

1. Teach him to solve problems

From learning to tie shoelaces to crossing the street by yourself, every step is a milestone for children to become more independent. When children find that they have the ability to solve the problems they face, it can bring them happiness and a sense of achievement. When he encounters obstacles, such as being laughed at by his playmates for not being able to put a puzzle together, you can take several steps to help him:

(1) Confirm his problem.

(2) Ask him to describe his solution.

(3) Find the steps to solve the problem.

(4) Decide to let him solve the problem himself or provide some help.

(5) Make sure he gets the assistance he needs.

2. Give him a stage to perform

Every child has unique talents, so why not give them a chance to show them off? If they like to tell stories, encourage them to tell you more stories. If they are good at numbers, take them shopping and let them help you pick out cheap things. When you can appreciate your child's talents and show your enthusiasm, your child will naturally have more self-confidence. What the children around us need is not just a worry-free living environment, they need adults to accompany them to "experience" their growth process. There is a saying: "To know what the world looks like in the eyes of a child, you must first squat down and look at the world from the child's position and height."

3. Give children time to play freely, and don’t arrange their lives too regularly. American child education scholars point out that free play is healthier and more beneficial to preschool children than planned activities. Parents should avoid filling their children’s time with various activities. All children need some time to do nothing and play freely.

There are 4 reasons why children love to cry

1. Feeling depressed when needs are denied. For example, if a child wants to go out to play but has not completed his homework, it is difficult for him to suppress his emotions after being rejected by his parents.

2. Feeling angry when one's efforts are not recognized. When children finish their English test papers carefully but do not get full marks, they will feel angry and may even not want to continue learning English.

3. Losing something. For example, you will feel sad when your teacher or parents confiscate your toys.

4. Parents place too much emphasis on results. If parents overemphasize the results of their children’s growth and ignore the process experience, it will be difficult for their children to accept when they encounter setbacks or the results are not as expected.

What to do if your child likes to cry

1. Accept first, then guide

Some children are naturally sensitive, with rich and delicate emotions. For them, crying is sometimes just a way to vent their emotions, so we just need to accompany them quietly. Emotions have a process of development and change. Parents' companionship and tolerance can help children accept their emotions, fully deal with the various psychological motivations behind their emotions, and gradually improve their emotional tolerance on the basis of acceptance, so as to reduce crying. For example, when a child is playing with other children in the community, he cries because he is fighting for a toy. At this time, you need to take him away and go to a quiet place. Usually, this will make the child cry even harder. What you need to do is to wait until the child's emotional peak is over, and guide the child to recognize his feelings - ask the child "What just happened made you unhappy, right?", "That child grabbed your toy, you are very angry, right?"... Let the child feel that his emotions are seen and understood.

2. Speak out your unhappiness

Inner demands need the support of language expression ability. For children with slightly insufficient language function, parents can guide them to develop the richness of language. For example, when the crying emotion dissipates, try to use language to communicate with the child what happened and how to deal with it. By constantly demonstrating appropriate emotional processing and language communication, children will naturally become more confident in their language ability and give up crying. Taking the previous scene as an example, after getting the child's response, tell the child how you feel - "You just did this, and Mom is surprised and angry." Face negative emotions and speak out your unhappiness instead of doing it.

3. Parents learn to control their emotions

Children who cry a lot are particularly sensitive and are easily affected by adults' anxiety, tension, anger, depression and other negative emotions. Therefore, parents should first learn to control and calm their emotions. If you have already shown your unhappiness, you should explain it to your child immediately to prevent your child from constantly guessing. Finally, if we have tried everything but the situation has not improved, then all we can do is accept the child, because maybe he needs to use this method to make himself feel safe at this time. And when we accept this, things will become easier.