How to deal with children who don't do their homework? Why do children not want to do their homework?

Recently I found that my child did not do his homework after coming home and was playing somewhere all the time. At first I thought he had no homework, but later I found that it was like this every day. Until one day the teacher told me that the child had not done his homework, I realized that this little guy had been leaving his homework there. Why do children don’t like to do homework? What should I do if my child doesn’t do his homework?

If children do not do their homework, different treatment methods should be given according to different situations. The following situations are common:

1. Abnormal vision. When a baby has abnormal vision such as high hyperopia or astigmatism, he or she cannot see clearly and is prone to visual fatigue, which may lead to a reluctance to do homework. Therefore, you should take your baby to an ophthalmologist for vision and refractive power screening.

2. Children with inattention and hyperactivity should be allowed to participate in sufficient physical exercise after school to release excess energy, and then let the baby do homework quietly.

3. Children are young and can concentrate for a shorter period of time, so we should proceed step by step, starting with a short period of time and gradually delaying the time for doing homework.

4. Encourage children to complete their homework on time and give them timely verbal praise.

1. Self-confidence

Many children don't want to do their homework because they have experienced frustration in learning and lost their self-confidence. Many times, we only see the results that children think are boring and uninteresting, but we don't know how they have evolved into this. For most children, they are interested in learning at the beginning. No child hates learning at the beginning, but as they learn, they get more and more frustrated with the evaluation and feedback they receive. They will continue to be criticized and educated, and even be "punished" for not learning well. In this process, they will also be constantly compared with other children. We know that "other people's children" always win. In this way, they will feel that they will not be treated unequally because of this matter, and they will not be rewarded or praised for this. Over time, children will develop avoidance behavior when facing the matter of learning, and begin to escape, and the external performance is that they are not interested and feel that learning is boring.

So, what should we do when facing children who think that learning is boring and have no interest in learning? The first step is to let the children feel a sense of accomplishment. Let the children achieve success in the learning process, feel that they will be appreciated and praised after learning, and even feel superior. The second step is to let the children feel that they are capable of completing it. It may be difficult for them to learn, but they can control and complete the part they should learn. These two steps are very important. If children can achieve success and control in the learning process, they will gradually develop an interest in learning. After that, with appropriate rewards and encouragement, the children's initiative will increase.

2. Behavioral habits

Many times, children are slow in doing their homework because of bad behavior habits. For example, do they write first and then play, or play first and then write? Of course, some children have no time to play, and are always required to do various homework. Because they don’t feel the pleasure of finishing the homework, their efficiency is not high.

Therefore, it is recommended that parents, on the one hand, arrange a fixed time for their children to do homework every day, so that the children will form a habit. On the other hand, before doing homework each time, try to clean the desk and eliminate stimuli that are not related to homework to avoid distracting children's attention.

3. Emotional management

There is another type of children who want to do their homework, but they become impatient and bored while doing it. Some children are weak in their ability to resist boring homework, have poor patience, and are not persistent. When doing boring homework, they are prone to become irritable and impatient. Other children set a goal for themselves that is higher than their actual ability and set too high a standard for themselves. Whenever they fail to achieve their own goals, these children will become angry, impatient, unhappy, and even make noises and shouts, throw their homework aside, and be unable to extricate themselves from their negative emotions.

Therefore, we suggest that parents of children with poor patience should, on the one hand, improve their children's endurance and persistence, and on the other hand, when arranging homework time, they should not arrange too much time for their children to do boring homework. If the homework is too long, they should divide it into several parts to complete. For parents of children with too high self-demands, on the one hand, they should help their children set reasonable goals for themselves, and on the other hand, they should teach their children to manage their emotions reasonably.

4. Organizational planning skills

Many children want to do their homework well, but they don’t have a good planning method. When planning goals, they don’t know how to plan them. The goals are either too high or too low, which does not match their abilities. They also don’t know how to break down the goals and set a time for each small goal. They don’t have an accurate understanding of their attention span, either underestimating or overestimating it. When executing the plan, they don’t know how to use skills and strategies, and throughout the process, they don’t have an accurate understanding of their own supervision and execution efficiency. Many children have no sense of urgency, or even no concept of time.

5. Other factors

There are other factors that influence children's reluctance to do their homework: environmental factors. Some children do their homework very differently at school than at home. Peer factors. Some children do their homework very differently when they are alone with their peers. Motivational factors. Some children do their homework very differently when they are rewarded or not. Finally, some children do not want to do their homework because they want to get their parents' attention. This situation mostly happens to children whose parents are not around them often.

Don't disturb your child when he/she is studying. Parents should keep their mouths shut and not talk to their children when they are doing their homework. Children need a quiet environment to study. Parents should not interfere too much. Let the children actively learn independently and give them space to play freely. Children will grow better and faster.

Make sure the child does the homework he can do. Homework is indeed difficult and it is really impossible to do it. We should accept his temporary bad habits, help him overcome difficulties, and create a relaxed and happy atmosphere. The instinct of life is to pursue happiness.

Give more praise and less criticism. The greatest reward for children is to make them feel that you recognize them and that they are making progress. If they do not meet the standards, you should first praise them for what they have done well, and then make new requirements for them. In this way, children will gradually move closer to our requirements.

Agree on a homework time. When your child is doing his homework, you should first give him an estimate of the time and tell him that you should start checking when the time is up. This will not only give the child a sense of urgency, but also make him compare with other children, forming a phenomenon of chasing each other.

Improve children's concentration. When children encounter something they are interested in, they can often immerse themselves in it for a long time. When children finish what they are concentrating on, parents' conscious affirmation can make children realize that this is an ability. In the long run, children will know how to use their own abilities.

Cultivate children's interest in learning. Whether in life or in learning, interest is the best teacher. Only when children have a strong interest can they naturally develop the habit of doing things without distraction.

First of all, parents should set an example. If they want their children to do their homework without procrastination, they should create a good learning atmosphere for their children. They should not play with their mobile phones or games in front of their children, nor should they disturb their children. They should read more in front of their children and set an example for them.

If your child doesn't do his homework well, no matter how anxious you are, don't yell at or scold him. The consequence of nagging is that the child will be even more unwilling to do homework.

If your child always procrastinates in doing homework, you might as well tell him or her that if he or she fails to finish his or her homework, the teacher will criticize and punish him or her the next day, and he or she will be laughed at by other classmates. Let your child know the consequences of not doing homework.

If your child forgets to do his homework because he is so engrossed in watching cartoons, do not force him to turn off the TV, as he will be reluctant to do so. Instead, remind him calmly that it is time to do his homework. You can give him a few minutes to prepare, watch the cartoons for a while, and then do his homework.

Children are prone to inattention and like to look around when doing homework, so a good learning environment is very important. The child’s study room should not be filled with things other than books and stationery, and it should not be decorated too fancy. This is good for the child’s concentration.

If the child is particularly naughty and just doesn't do his homework well, then take away his homework when it's time to go to bed and let him go to bed. The child is afraid of being scolded by the teacher the next day for not finishing his homework. When he bears the consequences, he will not dare to not do his homework well in the future.