How to deal with children who are grumpy when waking up? 4 tips to help them avoid being lazy in bed

Many babies at home have the habit of staying in bed, and even get grumpy when they get up, and they have to cry and make a fuss every day. So how to make babies get up happily is actually not difficult. Here are some parenting experiences for you, so that babies can be more motivated to get up early and get rid of the problem of being grumpy when getting up.

Chen Ming, the "cool dad", shared his own parenting experience and said that as long as you create a motivation for your child to find waking up fun, it will naturally help ease the baby's waking up problem, allowing parents to successfully wake up their children in a calm state! (Photo/Chen Ming, the cool dad)

Children love to stay in bed

Chen Ming said that in fact, if parents want to solve any problems in their children's upbringing, they should first clarify the possible reasons for the children's behavior and make adjustments and improvements. This is the best solution without damaging the harmony between parents and children and without having to yell at them.

Take the example of children who like to stay in bed. In fact, parents might as well think about it from another perspective. No one wants the quilt to be suddenly pulled off, or to be yelled at or woken up. This is especially true when one is sleep-deprived or not fully rested. Since adults don’t like this, what about young children who can’t control their emotions?

Therefore, Chen Ming suggests that when parents face the problem of difficult children staying in bed and being grumpy when getting up, they might as well think back and think about whether the reason why the baby can't get up in the morning and is in a bad mood is because the parents or caregivers did not give him enough rest and did not get enough sleep. If this is the case, you should not scold the child, but start by re-adjusting the child's daily routine.

Chen Ming also used his own parenting experience as an example. He mentioned that his eldest child, Ningxi, who is now almost 3 years old, actually did not have the problem of staying in bed too long after she was over 2 years old. This is because Ningxi has developed the habit of going to bed at 9:30 p.m., regardless of whether it is a holiday or not. Therefore, if she gets enough sleep and is full, she will get up by herself in the morning even if you don't call her. Therefore, if you want your child not to stay in bed too long, you must first let him have a normal rest time.

The Law of Attraction

In addition to advising parents to adjust their sleep schedules, Chen Ming also shared his secret to waking up his two children effortlessly! Chen Ming said that if the children still drag their feet and refuse to get out of bed, he would choose to reward them with something they like, so that they would feel motivated to get up.

For example, Ningxi and Ningxin both love to eat candies and biscuits, but eating too much of these sweets is not good for children, so the amount they eat is usually limited, and they can only eat them when they have done something worthy of a reward.

Therefore, when children do not get up or stay in bed, we will choose to use rewards to motivate them to get up. For example, standing in the living room, holding a candy jar with their favorite food, shaking it "crackling", and asking them: "There are cookies outside, you can eat them when you get up!" to attract them, and usually they will open their eyes and get up. However, in addition to candies and cookies, Chen Ming also encourages parents to try to understand what their children like, such as cookies, bread, milk, etc. to attract and help them get up.

This way the child won't stay in bed

Tip 1 - Advance notice

In order to reduce the chances of children staying in bed and allow parents and children to have a beautiful and peaceful morning, it is recommended that parents try to take out the things they need to take with them and the clothes they need to wear before going out the next day, as well as prepare some breakfast ingredients in advance the night before.

In this way, not only can the time for morning preparation be reduced, but these pre-study actions can also become a motivation to wake up children when they are reluctant to get out of bed. For example, "Baby, are you going to have class today? You are looking forward to it?" or "Hurry up and get up, there is your favorite bread for breakfast", which are all ways to increase children's motivation to get up.

The most important thing is, if there is a real urgent need to get up earlier than usual, in addition to letting the child go to bed earlier the night before or the night before, it is also best for parents to tell the child in advance what the purpose of getting up early is, where we are going, and what interesting things will happen in the next few days, so that the child can be full of expectations and be mentally prepared, which will naturally help to wake the child up more easily when the time comes.

Tip 2 - Make good use of light

If you want your child to wake up calmly without crying or making a fuss, you can use appropriate changes in light to wake him up from his sleepy eyes. However, this does not mean turning on the light with a click, but opening the bedroom curtains to let the sunlight in. It is a good way to wake up the human visual system through appropriate changes in light and gradually wake up the child.

Tip 3 - Caress and call gently

If the baby still sleeps very deeply after the above methods, parents may pat the child's arm or touch the cheek. Once the child starts to move and is ready to open his eyes, you can wake him up by calling him softly in his ear. If the child still hides under the quilt and does not come out at this time, tickling the child moderately to make him feel that getting up is fun, which is also a feasible method.

Tip 4 - Make good use of music

In order to successfully "ask your child to get out of bed" and let him voluntarily leave the warm bed, in addition to the above methods, making good use of music is actually a very good choice. Chen Ming shared that, for example, his eldest daughter Ningxi liked to listen to Little Apple a while ago and even sang and danced along. So if you want your child to have the motivation to get up, parents might as well choose a light and lively tune, or a song that the baby likes at the time, to attract the child to get up. It will be more pleasant and effective than using intimidation, such as "If you don't get up, I will spank you."

Finally, Chen Ming also emphasized that the most important thing is that through the above-mentioned interactive method, it not only helps children to get up voluntarily, but it is also a way to not hurt each other's harmony. Naturally, it can also avoid parents losing their temper and yelling, which will affect their mood and cause children to be afraid and unwilling to get up, and even form a vicious circle.