What are the behaviors of children's rebellious adolescence and what should parents do?

When children grow up and no longer need their parents' protection, too much restraint and regulation will easily lead to conflicts with children. Try to adjust your educational attitude, be friends with your children, and go through adolescence with them. So what should parents do when children show rebellious behavior during adolescence?

Children's puberty performance

My son's living habits have always been negative. When he was in primary school, I would remind him and he would do it. But now it's useless to remind him. Every day before dinner, he would start with a quarrel. I called him to eat, but he dragged his feet. I called him three times but he didn't respond. I couldn't help but say something to him, "Didn't you hear me calling you? Why didn't you respond? What's wrong now? You are the young master! You should always be invited to dinner."

He often replied: "I'm so annoyed by it all the time!" I was also frustrated. It was not like this when I was a child, why is it different after going to school? At a family gathering last week, I told my eldest sister-in-law about this trouble. I thought she has two sons who are now in high school and must have a lot of experience. Unexpectedly, she said: When a boy goes to school, don't worry about him. As long as he doesn't smoke, drink, or join gangs, just get to know his friends around him.

What she said was something I had never thought of. Is it really like that? If I continue to control him, I am worried that the relationship between mother and son will become more and more distant. But if I do nothing, will he become more likely to become a bad person?

Managing children during puberty

The son you used to know seems to have changed, and he has become uneasy to you. The previous mother-son interaction model has also failed. You care about your relationship with your son, but you are worried about how to face the new challenges of parent-child relationship. In fact, this is also the voice of many parents with adolescent children. When children grow from childhood to another stage of life, adolescence, do parents' educational attitudes also need to be adjusted?

I’m not sure what my sister-in-law meant by whatever she said, but it certainly wasn’t giving up, not caring, or being indifferent, because the parent-child relationship is a lifelong bond. What is certain is that the attitude towards education needs to be upgraded. Parents should no longer focus on managing their children’s lives and controlling their children’s behavior, but should go beyond protection and care, understand their children’s feelings and thoughts with a friend-like attitude, and help them manage themselves. Do you think it’s possible?

What to do when your child reaches puberty

I was very worried when I saw that you didn't come to eat, worried that the food would get cold and not taste good. I was only thinking about my own things and ignored the fact that you might be busy. I'm very sorry about that.

I care about your health very much, but as you grow up, I believe you will also care about yourself. So should I remind you 10 minutes before mealtime so that you can come to eat when you finish what you are doing?

I will clear the table and wash the dishes at X o'clock. If you haven't finished eating by then, please help wash your own dishes and clean the table. This way I can rest earlier and you will have more freedom to arrange your time.

Are you used to school? If there is anything you need help with, please let me know! I am happy to listen to you and will do my best to support you.

Kind tips

Friends are very important to students. If we want to share their experiences with their friends, we must be aware that only by letting go of our worries and judgments, and letting go of interfering in the details of life, can we have the opportunity to create more space between parents and children and allow different topics to arise.

Adolescents no longer see obedience as the only option. This does not mean that they want to go against their parents or make them sad. They just want to discover themselves with their own strength. There will inevitably be mistakes and confusion in this process. After all, it is not an easy thing to go from external discipline to self-discipline. The understanding and companionship of parents will form a stable anchor in the child's heart, allowing him to take risks and develop insights.