Is it okay to let my mother-in-law take care of my child? What should I do if I am worried that the child will be spoiled?

As we all know, due to the pressure of life and work, raising a child is already a great pressure for an ordinary family. In addition, maternity leave is limited, so many mothers have to return to work not long after giving birth. However, for very young babies, they still need someone to take care of them. At this time, your only choice is family, and the one closest to you is usually the mother-in-law.

The benefits of mother-in-law

Save on babysitting fees

Although the county and city governments require that children be taken care of by qualified nannies, the monthly childcare fees still need to be paid a considerable amount, plus the three major festivals and the year-end bonus. If the family has two children, the fees will be doubled, which means that all the income will be used to pay for the nanny. If you let your mother-in-law take care of the child, you can save such a large expense!

Flexible pick-up and drop-off time

If you let a nanny take care of your child and work overtime to pick up the child late, you will be charged overtime fees. If your mother-in-law takes care of the child, you usually just need to call and let her know. And if you live with your mother-in-law, you can also ask her to help put the child to sleep first. When you get home to take over, you just need to make sure that the child has not kicked off the quilt!

Disadvantages of being brought up by mother-in-law

Treat chocolate and cookies as snacks

Grandmas all have a common problem, which is that they never think their grandchildren are full, so they will secretly give chocolates and biscuits to the children between meals (not leaving any time for them!), but by the time the children have their meal, they can't eat anymore.

Let children watch too many cartoons

Usually, mothers-in-law don’t have such good physical strength! So they can’t have so much time and energy to accompany children to read picture books or go to the park to play on the slide. For them, playing cartoons is the easiest way to take care of children, but you will also worry that your children will watch cartoons all day, whether they will become nearsighted or become 3C children.

Maybe you can do this

My husband builds a bridge

Tell your husband about the inappropriate ways your mother-in-law treats the children, and ask him to communicate with your mother-in-law. Mothers will usually listen to their sons, so it will be less difficult to convince them!

If the mountain doesn't move, the road will move; if my mother-in-law doesn't move, I will move.

Since you can't change your mother-in-law's habit of giving snacks to your child, you might as well take a step back and allow your child to eat snacks, but you have to prepare the types of snacks. At this time, you can choose those with higher nutritional value, such as goat milk slices, nuts, whole wheat biscuits, etc. At least what you eat is not junk food. In addition, you can also prepare toys for your child that take more time to play with but don't necessarily require playing with, such as puzzles, which can naturally reduce the time you watch TV.

Conclusion

In fact, the mother-in-law's behavior is all derived from her "love" for her grandson. If you think about it from another perspective, her willingness to take care of the child has helped us a lot. With a support team like the mother-in-law, we should use communication instead of blame, and the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be better!