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When children are disobedient, many Chinese parents will resort to simple and rough methods - beating and scolding to deal with them, forcing them to compromise. In fact, many of your actions are crimes. How to avoid beating and scolding children, how to get along with children well, the following has the answer. Is it right for parents to beat and scold their children? Which behaviors are crimes? Can parents beat and scold their children at will? No. Children are not the private property of their parents. The physical health, life, and personal dignity of minors are protected by law and cannot be violated by anyone, including parents. Parents have the unshirkable right and obligation to educate their minor children, but education should be done in an appropriate manner. Using violent means such as beating and scolding will often only bring bad consequences and may arouse their rebellious psychology, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of minors. Reference laws: Article 10 of the Law on Protection of Minors, Article 98 of the General Principles of Civil Law Is it a crime for parents to beat or kill their children? Although parents beat their children mostly to educate them, hoping that they will learn well and correct bad behavior. It is not their intention to injure or kill their children, and in most cases it is an unintentional consequence. However, regardless of the parents' intentions, the physical health or life of minors has actually been violated and must be punished. If parents beat their children to minor injuries that do not constitute a crime, the public security organs will impose administrative penalties. If a child is severely injured, it constitutes the crime of negligent homicide; if a child is beaten to death, it constitutes the crime of negligent homicide, and the parents must be held criminally responsible. Reference law: Articles 223 and 225 of the Criminal Law Can parents sever ties with their underage children and cut ties with them once and for all? No. The relationship between children and parents cannot be terminated at will by parents. Parents must assume the obligation to raise and educate their minor children. If children behave badly or have bad conduct, parents should educate them well and help them correct their behavior. Driving children out of the house and pushing them into society without anyone to discipline them will only make them worse. This is an irresponsible act that forces minors to run away from home. It is also illegal for parents to abandon their guardianship responsibilities and fail to perform their legal obligations. Reference law: Article 8 of the Law on Protection of Minors How can parents avoid beating and scolding their children? It is definitely wrong for parents to expect to educate their children by beating them. Beating them will only cause children to have all kinds of bad mentalities and psychological deviations, and will never achieve the effect of effectively educating children. Therefore, I sincerely hope that parents all over the world will stop beating their children. You might as well try the following methods to replace the educational method of beating and scolding. Understand your child from many aspects The more you understand, the less misunderstanding you will have. Parents must take the time to communicate with their children, their nannies, and their teachers, and try to have a comprehensive understanding of their children's performance at home and in school. In this way, if the children do behave inappropriately, parents will know how to discipline them. Calm down, calm down, calm down again, When facing a child who doesn't listen to discipline, if the parents are hot-tempered, the most direct reaction is usually to beat and scold the child. In fact, at this time, parents should calm themselves down first, try to get into the child's heart, and patiently ask the child the real reason for such behavior. When parents focus on understanding their children's thoughts and finding ways to help their children solve problems, they may find that their children's behavior is actually justifiable, and at the same time they will release a lot of their own negative emotions, so they will avoid beating and scolding their children. Adjust your expectations for your child It is understandable that parents want their children to be successful, but some parents often set standards that they themselves cannot reach for their children. Therefore, when children cannot meet their parents' expectations in some aspects due to various factors, many contradictions and conflicts between parents and children are inevitable. Beating and scolding are just a way to vent emotions and will not help change the current situation of children. Instead of doing so in vain, it is better to lower expectations for children and let them choose the way forward without pressure. If parents really want to make some demands on their children, they must also consider the growth of their children and not always look at their performance through a "magnifying glass". Put aside your parental airs and respect your children. Some parents always like to maintain their dignity in front of their children and are used to treating their children with a superior attitude. In this regard, education experts suggest that parents should really put down their parental airs, respect their children from the bottom of their hearts, and respect their children as adults. Not disciplining children when angry In the case of extreme anger, parents will definitely not be able to discipline their children in a rational way. Therefore, when parents cannot calm down, they should temporarily leave the environment where the child is, or divert their attention to do other things, and then discipline the child after they calm down. There is no parent in the world who does not hope that their children can become successful, but countless examples have proved that no child can become successful without being beaten or scolded by their parents. The threat of beatings may work, but it is only temporary and will not last. Moreover, beating and scolding children is an infringement of their legitimate rights. In fact, you can still teach your children to be excellent without beating or scolding them. Every parent should keep this educational concept in mind and treat their children as friends. This is an important principle in family education. Therefore, in order for children to grow up healthily, modern parents must refuse to beat and scold their children, change the educational method of teaching by beating, guide their children step by step, convince them with reason, and create a good growth environment and a happy sky for their growth. The old Chinese saying "a good son is made under the stick" actually means changing the child's behavior according to the parents' will, which hurts the child's feelings. The harm that spanking and scolding children can cause to them 1. Physical Trauma The strength of an adult is far greater than what a child can bear. When some parents are angry, they will just raise their hands and hit their children. Some parents will even grab the broom, branches, rulers and other tools nearby to hit their children. If the child admits his mistakes with a good attitude, it’s fine. But if the child is "stubborn", the parents may get angrier and angrier the more they hit their children, and even lose their mind and control themselves. Many family tragedies are caused in this way. Most parents who hit their children are more rational. They think that children have to be hit eventually, but not on the head. It’s okay to hit the buttocks because the flesh of the little buttocks is thick and can’t be damaged. In fact, the buttocks can still be "damaged" - in mild cases, the child will have subcutaneous hematoma and nerve damage. In severe cases, the internal organs (such as the kidneys in the waist) will be affected or shock will be caused by extensive bleeding. You know, the child’s small body is very delicate, how can it withstand the palms and fists of adults? 2. Psychological Trauma A young child's nervous system is very fragile. A rude attitude, beatings, scolding or intimidation will cause him to become extremely nervous, fearful, and even cause psychological disorders. 1. Physical discomfort: Some children may experience physical discomfort due to mental stimulation. For example, they may suddenly have a fever or catch a cold (more commonly caused by shock). Some children may vomit or complain of stomachaches, while others may have loss of appetite, indigestion or even diarrhea. 2. Abandonment: When some parents beat or scold their children, they often use words like "I don't want you anymore, I'll just throw you away!" Don't underestimate these unintentional angry words, as they may leave deep trauma on the child's heart. A 3-year-old child clung to his grandmother and refused to leave. The grandmother asked, "What's wrong? Why don't you let grandma do things?" The child cried and said, "Grandma, you want me. I'm not my parents' child. I was picked up." The grandmother said, "Nonsense! How can you pick me up?" The child actually said, "Xiaohong's mother doesn't beat Xiaohong. She says she's her own baby. My mother beats me and says she doesn't want me anymore." 3. Fear: A child would cry and make a fuss every night, and would be nervous. He would often cling to adults, breathe rapidly, and look scared. It turned out that his father threatened him, "Make a fuss, there will be monsters when it gets dark, let the monsters take you away!" At first, the child still made a fuss, but the father pretended to be a monster, which frightened the child and made him quiet immediately. But since then, the child has suffered from obvious psychological disorders. For children under 3 years old, their neurological development is not yet complete, and intimidation or rude attitudes will cause children to have night terrors, excessive tension and fear. 4. Self-abandonment: Even if they are children under 3 years old, they will often feel that they are "incompetent" and give up on themselves if they are often scolded or beaten. They could have done something well, but they chose not to do it or simply sabotaged it. These children may also show indifference and timidity. 5. Strong rebellious psychology: It is not difficult to find that children who are often beaten are more "stubborn". They refuse to do what their parents ask them to do, and they may "refuse to give in" even when they are beaten. Some people think that children are beaten because they are too stubborn. In fact, when they are beaten, even if they are just children, they will not obey you when you beat them. This resistance caused by disobedience is expressed in the form of stubbornness. 6. Violence: Children who are often beaten will imitate their parents and beat others. The more violently their parents beat them, the more violent the child will be towards other children. 7. Lying behavior: After being beaten, children may be temporarily suppressed, but because they are afraid of being beaten, they will gradually not dare to tell the truth to their parents, or they will find excuses to avoid being beaten. Over time, they will develop the bad habit of lying and dishonesty. 8. Hatred: For children under 3 years old, they are very attached to their parents and generally do not develop hatred. However, if parents always abuse their children, the children will gradually become emotionally alienated from their parents and may develop hatred for their parents in the future. 「」 |
